Monthly Archives: February 2014

What If You Could?

Man leaping with joy

What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

What if you could … what?

What if you could meet the partner of your dreams? What if you could be as fit as a top athlete? What if you could achieve all of your goals systematically. What if you could have the job you love doing?

We spend so much of our time thinking that we can’t, we forget to consider if we could.

What’s the point you might be asking.

Apart from the fact that thinking about achieving something that would make us feel great actually starts to make us feel great – the very act of thinking in that way actually makes us consider opportunities and options that we are blind to when we’re busy thinking we can’t.

Think about it – if I ask you to think of three reasons why you’ll never win the lottery, it’s impossible for you to come up with ways that you could win.

If I said look around where you are right now and find ALL the red things, you wouldn’t notice all the blue things because that’s not where you are putting your focus. You’d miss all the blue things.

Likewise with continually thinking you can’t – you miss those opportunities in front of you that may just prove that you can.

Try that today – just allow yourself to daydream about all the things you’d like in your life and, just for the purposes of dreaming, imagine that you can have those things. Ask yourself: What if I could…?

See what happens.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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How To Ignore Negative Comments (Pt.2)

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

The other day I posted on How To Ignore Negative Comments and I think it deserves further discussion.

Firstly, I think it would be a good idea to start with the premise that the negative comments are ungrounded, ie: not deserved.

(Of course if you being a total idiot about something expect some negative comments, listen to them, and stop being an idiot.)  🙂

So, what if they are ungrounded?

These can come from all quarters; what I refer to as the 3 Fs of Influence – Friend, Foe and Family. Some are well meaning, whereas some are just being mean.

Here are 5 questions to consider that can put you in the right Mindset to tackle them head on:

  1. Are they true and does that even matter?
  2. Do they reflect who you are?
  3. Do they spur you on or deflate you?
  4. How much do you value the opinion of the commenter?
  5. How determined to continue are you?

Let’s take a look at them one at a time…

1. Are they true and does that even matter? – If someone tells you that you’re not a very good writer should that stop you from writing? Of course not. You can either ignore it and remind yourself that there have been many successful writers that weren’t actually very good technically. Or, you can use the comment to motivate yourself to learn more about writing so that you can improve. Either way – continue writing.

2. Do they reflect who you are? –  Taking the first example above, does the fact that you might not be a very competent writer detract from you being a writer? Of course not, no more than being an objectively poor painter does not mean you are not a painter. You are whatever you desire to be and no opinion from anyone else alters that.

3. Do they spur you on or deflate you? – This is nearing the crux of the issue, if the negative comment spurs you on – motivates you, then don’t ignore it. In fact, welcome comments of this nature. If on the other hand the comments deflate you, demotivate you, then applying a process like this one to determine what validity they have, this will help you see that other’s opinions have no baring on your ambitions and dreams. Many people told Edison to quit searching for a commercially viable lightbulb – but he didn’t quit, thankfully.

4. How much do you value the opinion of the commenter? – A good teacher will encourage you down your own chosen path. They might offer advice on potential course corrections along the way – in order to be helpful. A bad teacher will encourage you to pursue something based on their beliefs about what you should do. Decide how much value you put on the commenter’s comments and why. Are they trying to help you or steer you to a destination of their choice. As with good parenting, the role of a parent is to give their children the best environment they possibly can in which to make their own choices. Then let them.

5. How determined to continue are you? – This is the deciding factor on whether you continue with an endeavour or not. If you are easily swayed away from an activity ask yourself if it’s really what you wanted. If it wasn’t, then maybe the negative comment was actually useful advice. If not, if you feel an urge to continue, then do just that.

The problem isn’t the problem. The problem is the way you are thinking about the problem.” ~ Dan Sullivan

The way we think determines every outcome in our life. If you want to master your own Mindset – learn how here: CLICK HERE

Enjoy

Stu

:)

 PS: Don’t look back this time next year and find yourself exactly where you are now. Start thinking differently to create different results in your life – TODAY!
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How To Ignore Negative Comments.

Cartoon of negative comment towards employee

Look familiar?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

Do you ever get negative comments at work, or even about work?

Maybe they are comments about your skills or abilities, maybe they’re comments about your achievements or commitment.

If you think about them honestly you might even agree with some of them. If you do, maybe you are in the wrong job!

You could decide to avoid those negative people that you can, and ignore the negative comments of the ones you can’t. But that might be burying your head in the sand.

Maybe you hear negative comments when talking about your ambitions and dreams. If you think the comments are unwarranted then just say in your mind ‘They don’t know me’ every time they bring you down with words like:

…be realistic…’ or

…you’re no good at that…’ or

…I don’t think that’s your strength…’ etc.

As you learn to do this you will believe in yourself more and more. And that’s a good feeling.

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Maybe there’s someone you know that’s struggling to get out of bed every work day – get a copy for them.

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Enjoy

Stu

:)

 PS: It’s short, to the point, full of useful, practical content, easy to understand and apply – don’t look back this time next year and find yourself exactly where you are now.

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How to know if you’ve been in your job TOO long.

Feel like this in Your job?

Feel like this in Your job?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

The brilliant Lifehack blog recently posted the 17 Signs You’ve Been Staying In The Same Job Too Long – take a look, it’ll make you smile!

If you find yourself agreeing with many (or ALL) of them – come back here and grab yourself a FREE copy of my new eBook: ‘Do You Hate Your Job?‘ – it will help you get clear about WHAT would be your perfect job and HOW you can move towards making that a reality.

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If you decide you’re one of the 80% struggling to enjoy their job at the moment, grab a copy of “Do You Hate Your Job?” right now at NO COST before you make any BIG decisions. If not for you – then for someone you know that’s struggling to get out of bed every work day.

It will help you understand if you can actually fall in love with your present job, or whether it’s time to quit.

Click here to get your copy.

Enjoy

Stu

:)

 PS: It’s short, to the point, full of useful, practical content, easy to understand and apply – don’t look back on Feb 17th 2015 and find yourself exactly where you are now.

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Do You Hate Your Job? Really?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

I wrote an article for SelfGrowth.com recently, probably the biggest self improvement website on the internet with around 2 million views per month.

The article takes a look at whether you can actually fall back in love with your job – even if you have to do it for another company.

It also happens to be an excerpt from my latest book: “Do You Hate Your Job?” which you can get in full, at no cost, right here: –> CLICK HERE <–

You can read the full article here:  –> SelfGrowth

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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Take this job and shove it!

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

Thought this might be a bit of fun…

On a serious note – if you really are feeling this way – DON’T go and say this to your boss before you read this book:

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You may be one of the 80% struggling to enjoy their job at the moment but grab a copy of “Do You Hate Your Job?” right now at NO COST before you make any big decisions. If not for you then for someone you know that’s struggling to get out of bed every work day.

It will help you understand if you can actually fall in love with your present job, or whether it’s time to quit.

Click here to get your copy.

Enjoy

Stu

:)

 PS: It’s short, to the point, full of useful, practical content, easy to understand and apply – get it now.
 
 

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Want to be a High Performer?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

Brendon Burchard is a successful online marketer. He mixes with the elite in business and learns how they achieved their success. Then he models it, and applies it to his own business.

In this video he made a while ago he takes us through the 6 x Ps of High Performers. This inspiring video is about learning what the world’s most successful people focus on to create their results.

The Ps stand for Presence, Psychology, Physiology, Productivity, Persuasion and the most important P of them all – without it none of the others matter is…

…You’ll have to watch to find out. 🙂

To find out more about Brendon go to: http://brendonburchard.com/

Comment below with how this video inspired you.

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If you’re one of the 80% struggling to enjoy their job at the moment and you’re struggling to be a high performer, grab a copy of “Do You Hate Your Job?” right now at NO COST. If not for you then for someone you know that’s struggling to get out of bed every work day.

It will help you understand if you can actually fall in love with your present job, or whether it’s time to quit.

Click here to get your copy.

Enjoy

Stu

:)

 PS: It’s short, to the point, full of useful, practical content, easy to understand and apply – get it now.

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