Monthly Archives: December 2012

Are you Past, Present or Future oriented?


Find out in this this fascinating little animated video:

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8 things that lead to SUCCESS

This 3 min TED Talk will tell you about them AND make you smile at the same time.

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Set HABITS not resolutions!


Just a quick post relevant to the holidays and the fast approaching New Year.

If you regularly set resolutions, get two weeks into the new year and then break them don’t despair. Set habits instead, and set clever ones. Habits are behaviours that are hard to stop – we all know that. So let’s use them to our advantage. Make them positive habits and they can improve your life dramatically.

And the great thing about positive habits is… they have failure built in to the process.

Let me explain, think of some thing you want to stop. Let’s say smoking (that’s a common one right). Think of the benefit you gain from smoking, maybe you associate it with being sociable, that is, you may smoke when you drink with friends. Or maybe you feel calmer and more able to cope when you smoke. Now think of what other way you could gain that benefit – it won’t work unless you replace the benefit.

Now set a habit around that, for example if smoking makes you calm, think of an alternative, maybe listening to a certain piece of music does the same thing, so, listen to that music every time you want to smoke. Keep that habit up for 3 weeks but here’s where the clever part comes in – allow yourself to smoke some cigarettes each day, reducing by 2 per day or 3 per day (whatever you can cope with). Now, when you smoke 2 cigarettes less than the day before you haven’t failed, you have simply followed the rules of your new habit. Continue aiming for zero cigarettes, without perceiving it as failure if you end up smoking some. After 3 weeks you have begun to set this new habit. Keep it up for 4 months and you will find this new habit harder to stop than continue.

It works the same way with starting something, the usual is the gym. First, decide if you even enjoy the gym. If you don’t, then find another exercise routine that you can enjoy – you must find a benefit in your new behaviour or it simply won’t last. Let’s presume you find your perfect exercise routine, now reward yourself with something healthy each time you do it. You will learn to associate that reward with the exercise. Again, allow yourself some wriggle room. If you decide you want to do it 3 times per week, set it at once a week for the first week, twice for the second and three times by the third. If you don’t manage three time in the third week simply state that the third week was another second week and that next week you’ll do three.

This way, when you don’t do what you have set, you don’t see it as failure and give up but rather you see it as just another step towards your end goal. Twice in a week is still better than none after all.

To recap: set positive, rewardable habits instead of resolutions that include benefits (especially if you are replacing a bad habit) and see every glitch on the way as just part of the process.

Good luck and Happy New Year!



PS: I talk a lot about setting habits in my book and my 90 day program. You can enrol in the program forFree when you buy a book before midnight on 31st Dec 2012 here: click here


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Spread a little happiness


Seriously can we ever get enough of this…

If that doesn’t bring a lump to your throat – check your pulse!

Share, share, share.




PS: One source of unhappiness is work! If you’re struggling with that area of your life, my FREE eBook “Do You Hate Your Job?” is available here ——->    (Also available on Kindle if you prefer)


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Take the opportunity today to learn something new about someone close to you.


And before you start thinking about finding their diary I was kind of
aiming at finding out experiencially or conversationally. Use your
imagination. We’re rarely closer to someone than when we are in deep
intimate conversation with them. Having an honest and open discussion
about personal issues deepens understanding and tightens the bonds
bewteen us. This should be practised regularly, maybe you do. If you
don’t, now’s the time to get into the habit. Sometimes these
conversations can be a bit uncomfortable but they are always an
opportunity to improve your relationships.

What better day to do that than today?


The above is an excerpt from my book and coincidentally this week’s Confidence Reality Series Show #6 was all about this very subject. What I didn’t realise when I wrote this page was how deepening our relationships with people actually has a positive effect on our confidence. So, spend some time this holiday asking some real questions of those you spend time with. Some of the questions on the show were really insightful including:

Anna’s – How do you appreciate yourself?

Jase’ – Have you ever been broken?

Monica’s – What’s your passion?

Elaine’s – What are you reading at the moment?

And mine – What’s your ‘pick me up’ thought when you are down?

To listen to replays of the shows click here




PS: To buy a copy (or several copies for work colleagues!) and still qualify for enrolment into my 90 day ‘Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life‘ program at no cost (offer ends xmas ’12), click here

PPS: Special discount for multiple purchases available – email me direct for details:


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Exclusive interview with Canadian singer/songwriter Cat Forsley

Cat Forsley, Multi-Artist

Cat Forsley, Multi-Artist


Today I have another exclusive interview from another super talented individual – Cat Forsley.

The multi talented Cat is a freelance writer, singer, voice over artist and all round creative, she describes herself as: “Singer songwriter – poet – full on artist – animal advocate – Heart 🙂

We started following each other’s blogs earlier this year and connected more deeply a few months later. Since then we have been talking on a daily basis about everything from love to the origins of the universe and everything in between. She has become my Can Sis and me her UK Stu Bro – daft, but who cares! After my recent interview with best selling author WM Paul Young it was an obvious next step to interview Cat. Her music is beautiful, haunting, rocking and mellow in equal measure. She plays all of the instruments herself and is working in collaboration with producer Ashton Price on some new material under the name: ‘As The City Rumbles Underneath’.

I managed to catch a moment in her busy schedule to ask a few questions about who she is, where she’s headed and what she loves.

Q: So Cat, when did you first realise that you wanted to be a creative soul?

A: I’ve always been a creative type …obsessed with all art forms. My first way of expressing myself was probably at around 2 – my parents set up an easel in the backyard – between lovely trees – in Ottawa – where I was born – and I just painted and painted what I felt.

Q: What were you like at school?

A: In school: elementary school – I was very, very shy… I remember it very clearly – at 6 years we moved to Hong Kong – and I learned English at an International Lycée. Even though I was a quiet one – I absorbed everything and read everything I could get my hands on… I was an early reader. At 9 years we moved to Boston, I started to come out of my shell a bit more there – I really looked up to all my teachers and was a good student, I think it had to do with the atmosphere I was living in – Boston is so beautiful – and we lived right by the Ocean. That brought about much, much creative flow in my life, and then my writing began.

High School: Back To Ottawa – I got involved in Musical Theatre and Choirs and then VOICE, and articulating myself through singing and writing, which became my biggest loves. Then I went to college for Creative Writing and wrote a ton of stories – some universally themed, some very whimsical. And out of College – came full on music!

Looking back I think I wrote my first song at age 15!

Q: And what was your home life like back then?

A: My home life was incredible in many respects – I had the opportunity to see sooo much of the world because of my Dad’s work. I have a sister and a brother. My sister and I are very close, my brother lives in Ottawa. My parents are really amazing people – they instilled in me a love for the arts, science, theology, psychology and nature. Books and music were always very important in our home – wherever we lived in the world, at the time, we’d carry it with us. I also had lots of animals around me; two black labs, a cat and hamsters and turtles – that made me very happy as a child, I was surrounded by all that I love.

Q: What ambitions do you have?

A: My ambitions, these days – are to do the best I can every single day. I am collaborating with Ashton Price – a writer/ producer in Toronto. We are writing and publishing one song at a time under the band name – AS THE CITY RUMBLES UNDERNEATH . My ambitions are to help out as much as I can with Animal Welfare. Make someone smile. Be kind. Be Heart generous and just keep doing what I love.

Q: And you love creativity, but if you could only express ONE creative aspect, what would you choose?

A: Creative aspect – Only 1 !! Music – hands down. The notes are always in my heart ready to be expressed. Music and lyrics to me are my dearest passions – and I will never stop. But in saying that, I will never stop following all my passions, when you Love what you do it all flows from the heart, as one, and it becomes easier and easier to truly express what is most important – Love.

Q: Where do get your inspiration?

A: Love itself is my muse.

Q: And what do you want others to take from your music?

A: Music is such a personal experience. When I listen to a piece by Debussy or Beethoven, I hear the actual composer’s heart and what they were feeling at the time. I’ve studied Kant and Hume and philosophers that are here now, but all in all – I relate directly through vibration and where the music and lyrics take me. I would never even begin to understand what someone else would hear with my music – I am too close to it.

Q: So, what genre would you put yourself in? And are there any other genres you would like to explore?

A: Well the new stuff Ashton and I are producing is Dream pop. Very ambient and Spacey. On my own – I love every genre. Every drop of music takes me somewhere. I’d like to explore my classical side more. All in Good time.

Q: Talking of time, where would you love to be in 5 years time?

A: I am very happy with my life right now – in 5 years, I’d like to be scoring music for film. I’d like also to be using my voice to it’s fullest capacity and be doing voice overs, voice acting. I’d like to be married and live by the sea! Lots of dreams!

Q: Ah dreams, are there any goals or dreams that you are still reaching for?

A: Every day I try to do my very best. Amazing things pop up and I am amazed that when you are fully paying attention in Life – the signs are all there. My goals are all music and Love related. They go hand in hand for me.

Q: And finally, what advice would you give any readers looking to follow a similar path to yours?


To find out more about Cat, her music, her writing and all of her other passions be sure to visit:

I hope you enjoyed that, I certainly did – keep your eyes open for more interviews with fascinating, talented people in future posts.




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Replay of Universal Energy Radio show from TODAY


Replay link to my radio interview on UniversalEnergyRadio with host Anna Banguilan talking about coincidences and Law of Attraction and much more:





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Take the opportunity today to start over afresh. The past has gone – let it go!


Letting Go seems to be a coincidence that I’ve noticed through some other blog posts I have visited today. Maybe it’s the time of year. So I thought I’d revisit a post from Dec last year as it seems relevant. Here’s what I posted back then, maybe it bares repeating…

At the risk of sounding pop psych – you can’t live in the past. It’s
unchangeable. You can’t influence anything that’s ‘already’ happened.
This is obvious right? It’s so easy though to rerun old tapes in our
minds of events that have hurt us, offended us, traumatised us. It’s a
way of justifying our feelings. We use it to convince ourselves that
someone else is to blame for…whatever! We convince ourselves that we
are scarred by those events – defined maybe by them. But we’re not!
It’s a choice. We can choose not to be scarred by them. Yeah it takes
quite a bit of effort depending on how hurt you believe you were. I’m
not suggesting that your pain at the time wasn’t valid – I’m sure it
was 100%. But that was then and this is NOW!

Let it go.

Accept what happened. Accept how it made you feel at the time. Then – let it go.

If you want a brighter future step out of the darkness of the past.

I’d like to add that it might not be as easy as saying it so try one of these techniques to help:

#1 Use The Sedona Method of 4 questions.

#2 Use the ‘Thanking’ process where you thank the person you hold resentment or anger for. Thank them for making you who you are today [strong, compassionate, loving etc.], when you really feel a sense of gratitude towards them for your positive personality traits you bring a new emotion into that space.

I hope these help.



PS: Hale Dwoskin of The Sedona Method graciously agreed to feature his 4 questions in my book – see Nov 1st if you have it or click the link above to see my post about it.

PPS: To buy a copy (or several copies for work colleagues!) and still qualify for enrolment into my 90 day ‘Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life‘ program at no cost (offer ends xmas ’12), click here

PPPS: Special discount for multiple purchases available – email me direct for details:


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Universal Energy Radio (I’m on tomorrow!)


I’m on another radio show tomorrow (Universal Energy Radio) at 1:30pm UK time – click here for details:

That’s 8:30am EST for you in the US.

Hope you can make it.



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Confidence Radio Show: ‘Comparisons’ – TONIGHT!


The ‘Confidence Reality Series‘ Radio show tonight discusses ‘Comparisons’ and how they affect our confidence levels.

Tune in at 4pm – 5pm EST (9-10pm UK Time) by clicking here:

You may have learned a thing or two from the previous shows where we discussed how our possessions and our skill sets affect our confidence levels – I know I certainly have! And I’m looking forward to learning how comparing ourselves to others can either lift us or push us down.

I hope you can join us on this fascinating journey with our host Soul Dancer on PWRTalk Radio.




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