Monthly Archives: April 2013

How I Identified I Was in the Wrong JOB!

Hiya,

A couple of days ago in my ‘Comfort & Riches Parable‘ post I mentioned I’d share with you how I identified that I was in the wrong job and how I got out.

Here you go…

About 10 years ago I decided that working for someone else was not making me happy, not securing my future, not fulfilling me, not helping me contribute in a wider way and not helping me follow my passions.

I had reached an impasse.

I realised something had to change, and I was the one that had to change it. You can read more about it in the My Story section on this blog.

So here were some of the warning signs that lead me to this radical change:

#1 I found that I was short tempered a lot of the time

#2 I had no clarity about my future

#3 I felt frustrated most of the time with no clear understanding of why

#4 I felt stuck, and didnโ€™t know which way to turn

#5 I dreaded going in to work every day and even had daily anxiety pains in my chest

#6 Even though Iโ€™m not a natural worrier I found myself having worrying thoughts about what my life meant, if I would ever achieve the goals I had as a kid, and whether I was going to have an enjoyable retirement

#7 I felt like a huge bundle of potential tied in a knot, unable to undo it all

#8 I had no savings, no investments and no obvious prospects to progress.

If you can relate to any or ALL of them, Iโ€™m going to guess that you are not in the right job either. For me, I decided that working for myself was the way forward.

So, what should you do?

In my next post I’ll explore ways you can determine if there’s still a chance you can fall back in love with your job or, whether you have to get out to get on.

Until then, enjoy, breathe, relax and know there’s a light at the end of this tunnel.

Stu

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An Incredible Success Story

Thanks to my friend Vladimir Fistric for posting this video on his Facebook Page.

It follows on perfectly from yesterday’s post: The Comfort & Riches Parable

Watch and be inspired.

Stu

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PS: You’ll notice Michael puts his success down to Mindset! That’s exactly what my 90 Day Program ‘Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life’ can help you with. Find out more here.

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The Comfort & Riches Parable

Hiya,

If you are not perfectly happy in your work at the moment please take a moment to read this little parable…

A poor man reached middle age without becoming the succes he envisioned as a young man. He decided early the next morning he would ask a rich friend of his what the secret of success was.

The rich friend pointed down a rough path near the edge of town and said walk down that path and you will find the answer. Trusting his friend, the poor man set off down that rough path.

He walked and walked in the hot sun, on and on until he had blisters on his heels. The path twisted this way then that through some low hills, never giving him a good view of how far there was to go. The path was so rough he lost his footing a few times, but he kept on going.

As he turned a bend he saw a sign on the side of the path. As he drew nearer he saw that it said: โ€˜Not far to go now.โ€™ Encouraged, he continued walking.

A little further he saw another sign that read: โ€˜Keep going.โ€™ He felt a renewed sense of energy and determination even though he was hot and exhausted.

A little while later he came upon a third sign saying: โ€˜Nearly there.โ€™ A little stream ran alongside and he decided to take some refreshment before continuing.

After many more hours he sat down for a rest. He was in real discomfort and his ehthusiasm was beginning to wane. Sign after sign had urged him onwards but still he could not see the answer to success. โ€˜My so called friend has played a joke on me.โ€™ he thought. The answer is not down this path. Thereโ€™s only discomfort, frustration and endless false promises down this path.

At that moment he decided to head back home and give his rich friend a piece of his mind for making him look a fool.

Meanwhile the rich man was sitting on the porch of his beautiful country home waiting for his friend to arrive. A cool glass of lemonade in his hand and an expectant smile on his face.

He waited and waited, until eventually the sun started going down. Disappointed, he walked across the lawn and up to the gate of his house. He opened it and walked down the rough path that ran near a little stream. He stopped at the sign he had erected there. The sign read: โ€˜Youโ€™re here.โ€™

He gazed one last time down the long and winding path but there was no sign of his friend.

Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated failures. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.

~ Calvin Coolidge

My next blog will recount how I identified that I was in the wrong job.

Stay tuned.

Stu

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Every Woman Should See This.

Do we see in the mirror the same person others see?

Watch this beautiful video that shows that women in particular see themselves more critically than the rest of the world.

You are more beautiful than you think.

Enjoy and please share

Stu

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Do You Dread Going to Work?

p.277 of Scott Ginsberg's 'The Nametag Principle'

p.277 of Scott Ginsberg’s ‘The Nametag Principle’

Hiya,

Every day I read a page of Scott Ginsberg’s ‘The Nametag Principle’. ย (I’m out of synch due to when I started reading it! ๐Ÿ™‚

As you can see from the page above, there’s a reason why employees clock watch. But that doesn’t mean ONLY the boss can change that.

If you ARE an employee that clock watches – talk to your boss. Tell them you feel disengaged then offer solutions that would get you engaged. They will listen, or not. If not, you can choose to stay or choose to look for a better job.

If you are a boss and your employees seem unhappy, demotivated, uninspired – talk to them. Ask them what would need to happen for them to enjoy their job more. Then LISTEN. Brainstorm ways to let all employees feel valued, appreciated, part of the team.

Scott has a lot of books (for free) on his blog:ย HELLO My Name is Blog!

I encourage you to check his work out – you’ll be glad you did.

Enjoy

Stu

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PS: One of Scott’s pages from another of his books features as July 14th of my own book – check it out if you have a copy. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Share a book that changed your life

The first book that inspired me to write

The first book that inspired me to write

A few days ago a friend of mine nominated, through an initiative in his workplace, MY book as one that has inspired him – he’s not much of a reader! ๐Ÿ™‚ ย (Thanks Colin)

Then a couple of days ago, another friend – Tina of Practical Practice Management blogged about 10 books that have inspired her in some way.

This prompted my own blog on the subject. So listed below in chronological order are the books that have inspired me the most for one reason or another. Most are self improvement books, some are fiction that opened my mind in some way.

The Catcher in the Rye – by J D Salinger

Silva Mind Control – by Josรฉ Silva

The Road Less Travelled – by M Scott Peck

Women Are From Venus Men Are From Mars – by John Gray

Conversations With God – by Neale Donald Walsch

Celestine Prophecy – by James Redfield

The Secret – by Rhonda Burne

Tuesdays With Morrie – by Mitch Albom

Northern Lights – by Philip Pullman

Unlimited Power – by Tony Robbins

If I did this list again tomorrow it might change as there are many other books that have inspired me including:ย The Power of Now, Think and Grow Rich, all the other NDW and M Scott Peck books, Starseed and many more.

I’d love to hear of a book that has inspired you in some way.

Enjoy

Stu

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PS: To see the 36 4&5 star reviews my book has gained on Amazon CLICK HERE

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Are you aware you are a genuine fake?

Hiya,

Seems a bit insulting doesn’t it?

I don’t mean it to be.

I was listening to another Alan Watts lecture where he explained the origins of the word ‘person‘. ย It comes from the Latin ‘persona‘ or ‘of sound‘. This was the name given to the mask that actors wore which, some speculate, had a tiny megaphone shape at the mouth part in order to amplify the actor’s voice.

So what – I hear you say.

Interestingly, we call ourselves a person – which means we are saying we are a mask. And like the mask of the actors – we are playing a part. A part which is fake, and we wish it to be fake.

Some of us are playing the part of the hero, and some the part of the villain. The drama needs both parts in order to be interesting and captivating and exciting. But when the show is over, both hero and villain take a bow to rapturous applause.

Puts a new perspective on the villains of the world doesn’t it?

Food for thought.

Stu

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