Take the opportunity today to laugh out loud – go find something you like to laugh at!

Hiya,

Laughter is one of humanities greatest gifts. We can’t tell if any
other species laugh. We suspect some do. Dog owners will try and
convince you their dog smiles and sometimes even laughs. Scientists
studying primates will try and convince you that within their social
structure they laugh. But for the moment we only know for sure that we
do.

So, go and find an old joke book or an old film or a new one for that
matter, or read some cartoons or just spend some time with a friend
that always makes you howl – then spend some time laughing. It’s good
for the soul. It’s great for relieving stress. It releases happy
hormones in to your system and it makes you feel great.

Spend more time laughing!

As I finished writing that last sentence my other half walked in with
a cup of tea for me – she read the page then said: “I laugh in your
face every day!” I replied “You laugh in my face but I laugh at your
face!” We then had a good laugh. (When I say ‘we’ I mean ME – she just
wanted to tip the tea on my head!)

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

Take the opportunity today to listen to your inner voice.

Hiya,

Have you ever wondered ‘who’ owns that inner voice? You know the one.
The one that says: ‘You know what, I don’t think you can do that.’ or
it might be the one that says: ‘Yes, that’s what I should do.’
Either way that’s your inner voice. If you find you’re in disagreement
with that inner voice ask yourself ‘Who is that anyway?’

Who is it that you’re arguing with?

It can only be you right? So what part of you is saying something
contrary to what YOU are thinking? If it’s being negative then it’s
your fear personality. If it’s being positive then it’s your passion
personality. Ask yourself who you’d rather listen to – your fear or
your passion.

Stop for a moment and listen to your passion personality, if your fear
personality raises it’s voice just ask it to wait it’s turn. Listen
carefully to what your passion personality is saying.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

Take the opportunity today to focus on one thing at a time.

Hiya,

One of the terrible ailments I suffer from is ‘distractionitis’.
Sounds bad doesn’t it? I’m like a magpie in a tinfoil factory, I flit
from this thing to that thing to that other thing and back again. It’s
a miracle I managed to create the habit to write this blog every day.

I while back I went through Bob Proctor’s ‘Goal Achiever’s
Program’ and the biggest piece of advice my facilitator gave me was
‘focus’. Keep on with one thing until it’s done. That was hard to
hear. I’ve been like this for 46 years! I’m an artist for goodness
sake – I need my freedom of expression. Blah blah! The thing is I know
that he was right. I can get a lot of things done at once – I’m a
natural multi-tasker. But, if I want to get something done really well
I need to stop flitting around and just focus on that thing until it’s
completed.

This doesn’t mean you can’t get anything else done. Hey, we’ve all got
to pay the bills. The point is, if you have something that either
needs to be done or you really desire it to be done, then focus on that
thing as much as you can and allow all the other unimportant
distractions (TV, the pub, surfing the net, etc.) to take a back seat
for a while. You’ll be amazed at how productive you become.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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Take the opportunity today to ask for help.

Hiya,

OK put your hand up if you find asking for help difficult. Yes, I have
my own hand up right now – literally, I stopped typing and put my hand
up!

Why?

Why do we find that difficult? Maybe because it reinforces that we
can’t do this task by ourselves and we feel we should. Maybe we feel
that it would impose on others to ask for help. Maybe we think we
can’t afford the help that we require.

Let’s answer those ‘maybees’ one at a time:
1) The idea we should be able to do everything by ourselves is simply
ridiculous. Would you expect it of anyone else? Would you ask your
window cleaner to rewire your house? It’s ok to NOT be able to do
everything, we all have different strengths. It’s ok to ask for help
with something you know you can do on your own because somedays we
just need a bit of help.
2) I read somewhere recently that if you want someone to like you,
rather than do them a small favour, get them to do you one. Yes, we
like to help others because it reinforces our natural desire to be
wanted and valued. When you ask for help you’re actually giving a gift
to the other person. (I know – some people don’t see it that way so
don’t ask them!)
3) What’s your time worth to you? Sometimes you might have to buy
someone else’s time to get something done properly; on time; or
without going insane! Understand the cost of not paying someone else.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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Take the opportunity today to think before you speak.

Hiya,

I bet every one of us can remember something that came out of our
mouths that we wished we could cram back in. Too late! Once you’ve
said it, it’s said. Let’s do more listening and contemplating and
maybe, just maybe that’ll happen less. We can keep our great big size
nines out of our mouth. Do that today and you may very well be glad
you did tomorrow.

Being one that always wants to be right I have found myself NOT doing
this a lot in the past. It’s painful – for both parties. I will make a
concerted effort to keep my mouth shut long enough to ponder the
reaction of the words running around inside my head before I let them
out. Like excited children they need to be calmed before being let out
in the street to play. Who knows what kind of mischief they’ll get up
to if you let them run out unattended?

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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Take the opportunity today to check in on an elderly neighbour.

Hiya,

If you have an elderly neighbour it’s possible that you already do
check in on them. Often though they can go unnoticed as they tend to
stay in most of the time. If this is the case show a friendly face and
make sure they are coping ok. We all want our independence so some
elderly people can become defensive if you bring that into question.

For the most part though I think people appreciate the thought if they
are asked if they need anything – I certainly do if I’m unwell and a
neighbour asks if they can get anything for me from the shop to save
me venturing out.

Worst case scenario; you get a curt reply. Best case scenario; you
make a fascinating friend.

Enjoy and Happy Christmas!

Stu

🙂

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Take the opportunity today to see things for what they really are.

Hiya,

You know what I mean right? Sure you do. I could sit here and write a
page of words that show you what they are but I’d only be scratching
the surface wouldn’t I?

We’ve all got stuff going on that we say is this or that. But we know
it’s not. I mean it could look that way to the untrained eye, to the
casual observer, but we know it’s just a façade for what’s really
going on.

Take a good look at it today, be as honest with yourself as you can.
Allow the discomfort or maybe even pain of looking at it to come
through. Welcome it. Once we open the cupboard door and shine a light
in there we can see there was nothing to be afraid of.

I know this’ll be hard for a lot of people – me included, so lets all
dig deep and give it a try. If you’ve stayed with me this far I know
you have the  courage to do this.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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Take the opportunity today to be less judgemental.

Hiya,

“If you judge someone, you have no time to love them.”

Mother Theresa said that and she was right. When we judge we are at
least partially seeing our own faults in others. Because we recognise
them in our selves and dislike them we feel the need to dislike it in
others. If only we could forgive our own failings we could forgive
them in others. After all none of us are perfect. Jesus said ‘Let he
who has no sin caste the first stone.’ Coming to the same point.

So the next time you find yourself criticizing someone take a moment
to consider if you yourself have acted or thought in a similar way in
the past. If you have ask yourself how you would have liked people to
think of you. We have all made mistakes and we’ll all make more –
let’s not condemn each other for them. Show some empathy, some
understanding and leave the judge in the courtroom where they belong.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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Take the opportunity today to create a win-win situation with a colleague.

Hiya,

Yesterday’s guide might have seemed difficult for some and easy for
others. For most of us it’s reasonably easy to create a win-win
situation with our friends but now try it with a colleague. OK, I know
that some of your colleagues are your friends. Choose one that’s more
of an aquaintance – just someone you work with, then create that
win-win situation with them. Maybe it’s someone in accounts that is
hassling you for budget figures or the manager of another department
that needs some info from you. Find a way for you both to get what you
want. Bit more tricky. Bit more thought needed possibly. You’ll get a
greater sense of achievment from it though.

Good luck.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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Take the opportunity today to create a win-win situation with a friend.

Hiya,

I don’t know about you but there have been occassions in the past
where I’ve dug my heels in over something so that I could win. It
often meant that someone else lost. It might have been an argument or
debate, it may have been a negotiation at work or over the price of a
house or car. Whatever it was, the important thing to me at the time
was to win. We don’t want to look like suckers or losers or someone
that doesn’t know what they’re talking about right? Hmm.

Well there’s another option. Allow the other party to win too.
Compromise so that you both get what you want to some extent. Make it
clear in a debate that you value the other’s opinion or knowledge but
that you simply disagree – they don’t have to be wrong. When
negotiating plan ahead so that you can accept their final offer that
way you get what you expected and they feel like they had the last
say. When buying something of high value try to meet the vendor
halfway – you’ll both feel better for it. Some of this will prove very
difficult and sme will come easily, all I suggest is that you try.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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