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Divorced Dads with kids – Who do you need to BE?


(For any guys going through divorce or know someone going through it.)

So, your other half is leaving you or has left you.

You feel like shit.

Yep, you’re going to feel that way for a while, no magic pill, no shortcuts, just pain, misery, anger, resentment, heartache, confusion, oh – and some more pain etc. etc.


At some point, 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years – you’re going to say something like: “I’ve had enough of this.” And that is the first step.

You’re on your way. You’ve made a shift. Things are going to change.

At that point, to overuse an old cliché – it’s the first day of the rest of your life.

Phew! Glad that’s over, plain sailing from here on – er…nope.

Now the actual hard work begins.

The hard work of acceptance – accepting the situation for what it is.

The hard work of believing – believing you do still have a compelling future ahead of you if you can do what’s necessary to enable it.

The hard work of choosing – choosing to BE the Man, BE the Dad and BE the Role Model your kids need You to BE.

And the hard work of deciding – deciding to do what’s necessary to make that happen including compromising, forgiving, understanding, committing, listening, bending over backwards etc. etc.

If that sounds like a tall order right now head over to the Facebook page I’m putting together specifically to help you with that…

(If the link doesn’t work go to FB and search ‘Divorced Dads Rise Up and Be Proud’)

It’s not a place to bitch and moan – there’s plenty of other groups for that, but that kind of talk will just keep you where you are. This group is all about positive empowerment – helping Dads find ways to stay connected to their kids by taking back their true personal power.

This process, as painful as it is, doesn’t have to make you hardened to life or to women – you can use it to make you stronger. Remember steel is forged in a furnace, but it can bend and withstand immense pressure without breaking.

Join us and discover who you really are, how powerful this experience is going to make you AND find a way to BEhave in a way that will make your kids Proud to call you their Dad.

Come and join us now… Click   (‘Divorced Dads Rise Up and Be Proud’)

Take care


(And if you’re wondering why this is aimed at Dads and not Mums it’s simply because I’m speaking from experience as a Dad that was divorced.)

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Fascinating Experiment to create discrimination in children


Saw this powerful experiment done decades ago in a school in the US.

Jane Elliott the teacher, created discrimination between best friends in just 15 minutes. This short video shows how and why she did it and how we can all change our own prejudices.





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Reclaiming Your True Identity

With the new year imminent please take the time to watch this enlightening video of Tony Robbins helping a woman identify who she really is.

It won’t be up for long so watch it quick…


CLICK HERE to watch the video

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Be the change…

father holding son's hands

What feeling do you evoke?


If everything really is energy, then we really are all connected – literally, like one drop of water to another in the ocean.

That means whatever I’m feeling, in some small way I’m passing on to you.

What feelings do you want passed to you and what do you want to pass to others?

Strive to thrive



Change Your Mindset,                        CLICK HERE



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Take the opportunity today to try and understand something that upsets you.


This is April 15th page from my book “How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time.

   ‘You’re never upset for the reason you think.’ That’s the title of Paul and Layne Cutright’s #1 Amazon Bestselling book. It explores the root causes of why we are upset, presupposing that what we think we’re upset over is in actual fact a guise for something else completely.

If you find yourself getting upset over all sorts of things it’s possible they all have the same root cause. Once you identify that, you are well on your way to alleviating some, if not all, of the feelings associated with it including: anger, hurt, defensiveness, blame, guilt, shame, confusion etc.

If you do suffer from constant upset this exercise could seriously improve your life. Start by asking yourself: ‘What else could I really be getting upset about here?’ Just explore the possibility. It takes being brutally honest with yourself, are you ready for that?  




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Are you on an upward trend?

Are you on an upward trend?

Are you on an upward trend?

Stuart Young, London, UK


If you take a look at the financial markets you’ll notice there is an upward trend all the time.

Of course, here and there, from time to time, they go down – for a while. But eventually they pick up and continue to bounce back and continue to grow.

Life can often be like this – for everyone.

Everything is going along just fine, life is good, everything seems to be working out just dandy, then bam! A hitch. A stumble. Maybe even a fall.

At that point rather than thinking that everything has gone wrong, that your world is caving in, and nothing will be the same again – realise it’s just a blip on the graph.

Look back at your life, can you see any other blips? Trawl further and further back, surely there were some blips hear and there. You lost a job, a partner left you, or maybe you failed an exam etc.

You got over it right? At least I hope you did.

So here’s the thing, we must look at these blips as simply that: blips in an otherwise upward trend. A crest leads to a trough which leads to a crest and so on.

This perspective (bigger picture) may help you see that your present predicament is temporary and that You can choose to move towards the next crest.




PS: If you are having trouble reaching the crests, if you seem to find deeper and deeper troughs, then start somewhere. Your relationships, your health, your career. If it’s the last one then grab a no cost copy of my new eBook ‘Do You Hate Your Job?right here. And start reaching for those crests today.

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Tony Robbins: How to rescue a business deal.

Stuart Young, London, UK


The brilliant Tony Robbins just released a training video about ‘How To Rescue A Business Deal‘. But it’s sooooo much more than that.

If you’ve ever had to ask your boss for a rise, or to change what you do somehow.

If you’ve ever had to negotiate rates with an existing or potential client.

If you’ve ever negotiated anything to with your job or career whether in an employee role, employer role or even a freelance role, then this video is an eye-opener.

It’s about 38 mins long but I urge you to give it a look and it may just save you, or earn you a ton of money.

Watch it here before he pulls it down:

And no, I’m not an affiliate – I won’t earn anything if you go watch it or buy anything from him. 🙂




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