This could be one of the most rewarding things you do this year!

This is August 30th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to write a letter to one of your parents.

Now I don’t know what your relationship is like with your parents. But to be honest it doesn’t matter whether it’s good or bad, close or non-existant. Even if you’ve never met your parents or parent. Even if your parents or parent are no longer with us. Put pen to paper and what you want to say will come pouring out. It might take a while. You might have to just write – something, anything, but when it starts it will pour out.

This will be a cathartic exercise. It might be painful, it might be joyful but it will be rewarding.

You may decide to post the letter afterwards or you may not. If you don’t want to, I would suggest you put the letter in an envelope marked ‘To Mum’ or ‘To Dad’ or even  ‘To Mum & Dad’ and post it. It will never get to them but you will have symbolically sent it.

Enjoy

Stu

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How to help someone having a bad day…

This is August 29th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to empathise.

You ever have one of those days where nothing seems to go right? Where you feel life is out to get you? Where you don’t know which way to turn, you’re confused or frustrated or just plain angry?

Did one of your friends or family really listen to you and say something like: ‘Oh God! That’s terrible.’ or ‘Holy cow! how did you get through that?’ or ‘Oh you poor thing, I don’t know what I would have done in that situation.’?

They didn’t try to solve anything or give you advice or tell you what you should have said or done. They just offered support and understanding. How much better did you feel after that? If it’s never happened to you – imagine how you would feel if it did.

I’m hoping you said it made you feel better or would make you feel better. If that’s the case then offer that to someone today if the opportunity arises. Just listen and feel how they are feeling. Imagine You are going through that. Let them know you understand how they feel or at least can appreciate how they feel.

Offer NO solutions (unless asked for), offer NO advice (unless asked for).

Enjoy

Stu

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An easy way to reconnect more deeply…

This is August 28th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to go to a live event.

I for one do not go to enough live events. Maybe you do – if so excellent. If not, make the effort. They don’t all cost money either. Many bars and cafes have live music as do pizza restaurants and other free to enter venues. OK, so you’ll have to buy a drink and maybe eat something. Alternatively there are always festivals of all types, shapes and sizes happening along with free open air concerts.

Get Googling.

So why do I encourage this?

Because it’s an experience. We are all here, living our lives, wanting and searching for experiences. That is what life’s all about isn’t it? Engaging in experiences en mass heightens our enjoyment as well. I think it’s because we feel more connected, another one of life’s goals.

Through involving yourself in these live events you will strengthen your existing relationships with those you share the experience with, give yourself the opportunity to meet new like minded people and get to reconnect with your own soul.

Enjoy

Stu

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1 Step to turn a negative into a positive.

This is August 27th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to change your perception.

Last summer I completed the Bob Proctor ‘Goal Achiever’s Program’ and on one of the audios I listened to he spoke about perception. It supposes that our perception of a situation directly influences our action in that circumstance.

EG: We’d gladly walk across a plank of wood suspended 6 feet off the ground if there was a £1000 reward at the other end, but we wouldn’t if the plank were 200 feet off the ground. Then again, if our child was in a building that was on fire and that plank bridged the gap between it and a neighbouring building we would gladly cross it to save them – no matter how high up.

I’ve listened to it a few times now and something dawned on me last night as I was walking one of our dogs; if that’s true, which it seems obvious that it is, then we can actually use that knowledge to motivate ourselves more effectively.

Let’s say you have a task to do on your day off. It’s a bit of a dull task but it needs doing. You might ordinarily decide to leave it and do it another day and we all know what will happen there – the next day becomes another day which becomes another day and so on and the task remains to be done. Now consider that you put it in your mind that your boss is going to give you a 20% rise if you get that task completed today. Just think that. You’ll possibly find that actually motivated you to consider doing the task. Really imagine it’s true, imagine you just got off the phone with your boss, they were really pumped up and excited about giving you that raise for completing that task. Pretty soon you will feel a whole lot more motivated to do it.

Note: Keep the perception positive rather than negative, ie: imagine the boss is going to give you a raise for doing it rather than imagining he’ll fire you for not doing it. Positive outcomes are much more compelling and motivational than negative ones.

Try it and see – it’s just a theory!

The difference between seeing a storm as a disaster or a thing of beauty – is your perspective.

Enjoy

Stu

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Do you find you’re always in a rush?

This is August 26th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to slow down.

If you live in the western world you know exactly what I’m talking about here. Everything is a hundred miles an hour. You turn on the TV and they can’t even run the credits on programmes anymore without squeezing the screen up so they can advertise the next program. The commercials have so much motion in them your eyes don’t get a second to settle on anything until the pack shot at the end.

Then there’s our jobs, the deadlines, the rush to get home. Sometimes I actually like to get stuck in traffic just for the chance to slow down. It doesn’t help that we are now contactable 24/7 via our multi functional mobile devices. Many statistics now show that we are actually less productive than 20 years ago for this very reason.

We don’t give ourselves the time to focus.

So, slow down. Just for today. And if you like it, do it again another day, and another and so on. Before too long you will be living a calmer more enjoyable and rewarding life. Believe me – you won’t be missing anything.

Enjoy

Stu

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How do vision boards work?

This is August 25th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to create a vision board.

John Assaraf (star of The Secret) is the creator of the Vision Board idea. In a nutshell you get yourself a corkboard or something similar and you cover it in pictures/words and anything else to hand that represent the things you love in your life AND the things you’d love to have in your life.

You get magazines, newspapers, mailers, books etc. and you take the images out that best illustrate what it is you value. You pin them on the board and then keep the board in a place that you can see every day. In your office or study or kitchen or hallway, whatever, someplace that you know you’ll see it every day.

Why?

The idea is that by seeing these images each and every day you allow yourself to get into the same vibration as what you see. Your dream home or car for example. Or your dream lifestyle, job or even your partner.

Alternatively, you might want to believe that by seeing these images every day your subconscious mind ends up creating ways to help you get them.

Whatever you believe – it works! Don’t get bogged down in the how, just try it and see.

John graciously allowed me to feature this idea in my book and I thank him for that as he is one of my many mentors.

For more info on John Assaraf go here: http://www.PraxisNow.com

Enjoy

Stu

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Understanding that what’s holding you back could help you along.

This is August 24th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Newton’s Law that states every action has an opposite and equal reaction, ie: the positive energy of gratitude you send out will come back to you. Help and be helped in return. That’s not to say ‘help’ and expect to be ‘helped’ in return by that person or any other person. Just know that you will be helped somehow. Thank and be thanked. Give and be given, etc.

Some of you might be thinking; Newton didn’t mean it that way. You might think that Newton was just talking about physical forces like the butt of a rifle forcing it’s way into your shoulder with the same force that the bullet propels from the barrel. But I will argue that it’s all energy. And if Newton was around today and got to grips with Quantum Mechanics he would agree with me. Everything is energy and therefore any form of energy is subject to his Law.

For practical uses Scott Ginsberg writes about duality in a similar way in his book ‘Ideas Are Free Execution Is Priceless’ (p.131) where he suggests embracing opposites in order to be successful. One example he uses is being patient with an equal amount of impatience. Patient with the process, understanding that things don’t always go the way or at the speed you planned, and impatient enough to get moving with ideas without waiting until every tiny detail has been considered.

Think of how you could use this concept today.

Enjoy

Stu

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How to make networking enjoyable.

This is August 23rd of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to network.

You might be good at this already – I’m not. Not naturally anyway. I always feel like I’m forcing small talk or I feel like I’m selling myself – YUK!

However, I’ve started to look at it in a different light recently. If I walk into a room at a networking evening or a party or a conference or a business meeting I focus on trying to help someone. That might be directly or indirectly. If indirectly, then it usually means I know someone that could help them. I then put those people in touch and hey presto – I’ve just networked.

So, if like me, you don’t naturally enjoy networking try thinking of it as an opportunity for you to just help and serve someone. We all like helping someone out don’t we?

Enjoy

Stu

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What is it that you are afraid of?

This is August 22nd of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to confront another one of your fears.

Way back on March 24th I suggested you do this. I don’t know if you did or not – I did, and it was an enlightening experience. Try again today whether you did in March or not. The more of your fears you confront, analyse, dissect, uncover, shine a light on and expose, the more confident you will become.

You will realise at some point that You are the source of all your fears. Yeah, I know, some of you may have had terrible things happen in your childhood but you’re not in your childhood now. You are now fully grown – physically. Time to become fully grown emotionally.

I’m not suggesting that it’s easy. But it is incredibly fruitful. You’d like to live without fear wouldn’t you? Go back and read March 24th if you need to but don’t hesitate for too long, grab one of your fears by the scruff of the neck and take a good close look!

(Those with a copy of the book will know what I wrote underneath that entry)  🙂

Enjoy

Stu

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What’s the most valuable gift you can give?

This is August 21st of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to help someone else be resourceful.

So, following on from yesterday, if you discovered ways to become more resourceful – share them. Find someone else that might be struggling with some issue or another and offer your insights to them. They may reject them, and that’s ok. It might not be a one size fits all or they might not be ready for those insights yet.

Accept the way people react to your trying to help. It’s easy to feel upset, or angry or disappointed that someone doesn’t follow your good advice. But let it go. You tried.

Most people will accept help when offered so keep offering. And if you can help them become more resourcful you will have given them something invaluable.

In my book – one of the most valuable gifts you can give.

Enjoy

Stu

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