Hi,
This is a good to place to start to get the ball rolling. I hope you decide to follow each day and resign yourself to each new day’s opportunity to take some action which may impact your life in some way.
A while back I saw some footage of Frank Kern at an Internet Marketing conference from a couple of years ago, the content is totally relevant to everyone, everywhere. In it he outlines an exercise in which you can find more clarity about your Core (true) self.
The idea is you write down a whole bunch of stuff about your dreams
and goals – new house, better job, more money, neat car, perfect
partner etc. When you’re finished you’ll find most of those things
reflect the Surface (shell) You. He explains that what we most desire
is ongoing ‘experience‘. Seems obvious, and it is – but sometimes we
need to be reminded because we get so wrapped up in our day to day
lives that we forget.
Now to get to the Core You – go to step 2.
This time, consider your ‘Perfect Day‘. Imagine it without limitations
and without consequences. Write it in as much detail as you possibly
can – take some time over it. Start with what would you be thinking
about when you wake? What time is it? What’s the weather like? What’s
the view from your bedroom window, who’s with you?
What do you have for breakfast, and if there’s someone with you, what do you talk about over breakfast? Etc. etc. all the way through to your last thought as you lay in the dark about to go to sleep. Imagine you might have to relive this day over and over like Bill Murray in Groundhog day – what would it have to be like for you to be ok with it being like that ‘every‘ day.
When you get to the end of that exercise, read it back, feel like
you’re actually remembering it from yesterday – how do you feel? Now
you should be getting an idea about what the Core You really wants.
(By the way there’s a clue about how to identify the Core you – the
origin of the word Core means Heart. So look at what your heart is
‘feeling’ as you imagine your perfect day and it will reflect what you
Love.)
Once you’ve completed your Perfect Day, write 5 goals that you need to achieve in order to make it a reality. You’ll then have an idea what you need to do to experience that Perfect Day for real. 🙂
To find out more about the brilliant, and [I find] funny, Frank Kern
go to: frankkern.com. Beware though he is a super gifted persuasion
expert and he might get you to buy something from him! 🙂
cheers
Stu
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We always fantasize about the perfect day but never dreamed of writing about it. A very unique topic!
This one exercise can potentially bring so much clarity that it could change your life forever. I hope you get a lot out of it. 🙂
I am so surprised how good I felt to do this exercise on paper. Thank you Stuart for this suggestion! It really made a difference!
I’m so glad you did, and so grateful for the comment. Do you know what your first step in that direction is?
Ironically, I realized that some of my days were perfect and for some odd reason, I just did not notice. This is what I got from your exercise: to open my eyes and be grateful for what I have.
That’s a great reminder to us all. It all starts with gratitude. 🙂
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Thanks Stu, Who I am in the inside is different from the “outside”. Although, my journey to fulfill the “inside” will have to take what I am on “the outside”. If that makes any sense.
I think it does. Does doing your Perfect Day help with that?
As in setting a goal for me to go for? Yes it does.
Excellent! 🙂
Everyday is perfect – just as it is 🙂
A great place to be indeed! 🙂
smiles and a Yes …:)
Good ideas…thanks for linking it. ( this idea caught my eye in the pdf too…) This is a bit like the ideas of the desired “underlying qualities” I’m trying to figure out about understanding goals or motivation. (that was in one of the attachments I sent along to you….I’m finding that figuring out/identifying that underlying quality/feeling/core sense is where I seem to be “at” right now.
This Perfect Day is a good exercise for that. There’s a whole section in the 90 Day Program that deals with goal setting, prioritising and then moving towards. It touches on identifying your passions with some powerful techniques to really get down to the main ONE! 🙂
This is a great idea. I’ve been working on similar things for about a year now, such as imagining what I want, but I have yet to write it down. Thank you!
You’re welcome, glad you liked it. I hope you get time to browse my blog as there are many excerpts from my book like this one for you to indulge in. 🙂
Hello there, You have done a fantastic job. I’ll certainly digg it and personally suggest to my friends. I’m confident they will be
benefited from this website.
Thanks Frank, I appreciate it. 🙂
Hi Stu!
This is a GREAT idea! 🙂 It was a fantastic exercise to do. Thank you!
Thanks Susi – I learnt it off Frank Kern, who I think learnt it off Tony Robbins, who in turn learnt it from Jim Rohn. 🙂