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Still Hate Your Job?

Interview with Stuart Young

Hate Your Job? Listen now…

Hiya,

I recently did an interview with Rebecca Gordon from the Coaching Lounge where we discussed what to do if you hate your job. Take a listen right here:
 
Scroll down to the second interview…

 

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How to know if you’ve been in your job TOO long.

Feel like this in Your job?

Feel like this in Your job?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

The brilliant Lifehack blog recently posted the 17 Signs You’ve Been Staying In The Same Job Too Long – take a look, it’ll make you smile!

If you find yourself agreeing with many (or ALL) of them – come back here and grab yourself a FREE copy of my new eBook: ‘Do You Hate Your Job?‘ – it will help you get clear about WHAT would be your perfect job and HOW you can move towards making that a reality.

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If you decide you’re one of the 80% struggling to enjoy their job at the moment, grab a copy of “Do You Hate Your Job?” right now at NO COST before you make any BIG decisions. If not for you – then for someone you know that’s struggling to get out of bed every work day.

It will help you understand if you can actually fall in love with your present job, or whether it’s time to quit.

Click here to get your copy.

Enjoy

Stu

:)

 PS: It’s short, to the point, full of useful, practical content, easy to understand and apply – don’t look back on Feb 17th 2015 and find yourself exactly where you are now.

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Does accepting stop you changing?

JULY 29th of  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time’.

Take the opportunity today to accept things the way they are. It doesn’t stop you changing them.

There’s a psychological process that we all suffer from on occasion: Attachment.

Attachment is the holding on to an outcome of some kind. Let’s say you’re trying to get a new job and you see the perfect position for you advertised in the paper. You apply and you get an interview. The interview goes well and they say they’ll let you know within a week if you have the job. Meantime your boss in your present job rubs you up the wrong way and you begin to ‘hope’ that you get the new position. This hope is fine up until the point when you get a phone call or letter saying unfortunately you didn’t get the job. At that point your mood sinks, you become depressed at the thought of going in to work the next day.

You become miserable at the thought of being stuck in a job you hate.

You have become ‘attached’ to the outcome of getting a new job. You have made your happiness dependant on getting that position and when that doesn’t happen you spiral into a bad mood.

The healthier thing to do is ‘accept’ the situation. Just accept that you didn’t get that job and continue looking for another position. Accept that until you find another job you’ll have to keep working at your present one. You’re still looking to change that situation. But through accepting it you can remain calm and focused.

A lot of upset in our lives is caused by our attachment to outcomes whether it’s being stuck in traffic which is making us late for something, or builders not turning up when they agreed which means your kitchen won’t be fitted today, or whether the person you wanted to ask for a date is now going out with someone else.

They are all attachments to the outcome. Some are harder to accept than others but practice will help. Start today accepting things the way they are and the way they turn out, then, continue trying to change them. Calmly and with determined focus.

Remember: we can’t control everything that happens to us, but we can control how we react to it.

Enjoy

Stu

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What’s the cost of staying in your job?

Hiya,

If you’ve been following my recent posts, talking about whether you can stay in your present job or career or whether you may be better suited to getting out – then take a moment to consider the cost of doing nothing.

If you just stay where you are and you just keep doing what you’ve been doing. Not trying to fall back in love with it, not trying to recraft it into something more enjoyable – but just staying exactly where you are, it will cost you in the long run.

These are the three main areas where doing nothing will cost you:

  • Emotionally
  • Financially
  • Opportunity cost

EmotionallyHow I Identified I Was In The Wrong Job  will give you some clues to how you might be feeling right now and how you’re going to continue to feel if you do nothing about it. Anger, frustration, feeling stuck, chest pains etc. etc. It doesn’t get any better unless YOU change something. What’s the cost to your health and well being?

Financially – for me I was almost instantly better off when I made the change I needed. That may not be the case for everyone, but the question I asked myself at the time was: ‘Can I survive with less?’ When I decided I could, it made it easier to make the change – and that’s when opportunity raised its head. What’s the potential cost to your pocket?

Opportunity cost – I would never have known what opportunities were available to me if I had just put my head back in the sand, and I certainly wouldn’t be enjoying the lifestyle I have today. If you don’t put your head over the parapet you’ll never see what lies beyond the fortress walls. You have to consider the opportunities, look for them, recognise them when they show themselves and calculate the cost to you if you don’t seize them. What opportunity will you miss by staying as you are?

Hopefully you’ve spent the time necessary to create, separate and prioritise your opportunities list as mentioned in the last post How To Change Jobs (Step 3) . Those 5 top opportunities open to you, together with understanding the cost of doing nothing, should give you plenty to consider right now.

Mistakes

In my opinion, if you are in a job that you hate, or a company that you hate, then there are two mistakes you can make right now:

  • #1 Doing nothing
  • #2 Quiting before you understand what your options are

The next step is Deciding. This is the step that really set me on the path to my present lifestyle and circumstances. It seems daunting but in my next post I’m going to reveal how to make the decision process a whole lot easier.

Stay tuned

Stu

🙂

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How to Change Jobs (Step 3)

Hiya,

Welcome back to this series of posts about understanding your opportunities and how they may lead you to your next career step.

In the last post How To Change Jobs (Step 2) we discussed sorting your opportunities list (of at least 30 items) into an A, B and C list. Give it a quick read if you need to.

You should have ended up with 10 items on your ‘A’ list. These should be the 1o things that you really enjoy doing, whether as a hobby or a part time income stream, or what you do right now for your job or what you’d LOVE to do.

Now sort this final list into order – #1 being the absolute best thing, right at the top. #2 being the 2nd best thing you think you could do, or would love to do, #3 being the third, and so on.

Once you’ve done that, get a pad and write down as many things as you’d need in order to make that #1 thing a reality. It might be that you need to retrain in some way. You might need to network with some industry leaders in your area. You might need to find certain resources like an accountant, financial advisor etc.

Then organise that list into the top 5 things you need to do.

You might be thinking right now – I hate all this list writing and thinking. I just want the answer. And I understand – I was there, to some degree I revisit there from time to time. But what I’ve learned over these last 10 years is… you get out what you put in. There is no short cut, you have to be prepared to do whatever it takes to get what you want in life. If this is too much hard work – ask yourself if you’re really committed to change your life. Are you committed to finding the career you love?

I hope you decide that you are, because I can’t help you if you’re not.

Those top 5 things that you need to do are now your opportunity to explore whether you can change your job or career.

Look out for my next post “What’s the cost of staying in your job?”

Take care

Stu

🙂

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Do You Dread Going to Work?

p.277 of Scott Ginsberg's 'The Nametag Principle'

p.277 of Scott Ginsberg’s ‘The Nametag Principle’

Hiya,

Every day I read a page of Scott Ginsberg’s ‘The Nametag Principle’.  (I’m out of synch due to when I started reading it! 🙂

As you can see from the page above, there’s a reason why employees clock watch. But that doesn’t mean ONLY the boss can change that.

If you ARE an employee that clock watches – talk to your boss. Tell them you feel disengaged then offer solutions that would get you engaged. They will listen, or not. If not, you can choose to stay or choose to look for a better job.

If you are a boss and your employees seem unhappy, demotivated, uninspired – talk to them. Ask them what would need to happen for them to enjoy their job more. Then LISTEN. Brainstorm ways to let all employees feel valued, appreciated, part of the team.

Scott has a lot of books (for free) on his blog: HELLO My Name is Blog!

I encourage you to check his work out – you’ll be glad you did.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

PS: One of Scott’s pages from another of his books features as July 14th of my own book – check it out if you have a copy. 🙂

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Is this the Happiest man in Sri Lanka?

I saw this video today and it reminded me of the post I did yesterday about hating your job.

This inspiring man reminds us all that we ‘choose‘ how we feel about our circumstances. HE chooses to be happy. WE can too.

It’s a Mindset shift.

Take time to smile today, help someone else smile by sharing this. 🙂

Enjoy
Stu
🙂

PS: Original video here: http://www.karmatube.org/videos.php?id=3860

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