I recently completed the Bob Proctor ‘Goal Achiever’s Program’ and on
one of the audios I listened to he spoke about perception. It supposes
that our perception of a situation directly influences our action in
EG: We’d gladly walk across a plank of wood suspended 6 feet off the
ground if there was a £1000 reward at the other end, but we wouldn’t
if the plank were 200 feet off the ground. Then again, if our child
was in a building that was on fire and that plank bridged the gap
between it and a neighbouring building we would gladly cross it to
save them – no matter how high up.
I’ve listened to it a few times now and something dawned on me the other
night as I was walking one of our dogs; if that’s true, which it seems
obvious that it is, then we can actually use that knowledge to
motivate ourselves more effectively.
Let’s say you have a task to do on your day off. It’s a bit of a dull
task but it needs doing. You might ordinarily decide to leave it and
do it another day and we all know what will happen there – the next
day becomes another day which becomes another day and so on and the
task remains to be done. Now consider that you put it in your mind
that your boss is going to give you a 20% rise if you get that task
completed today. Just think that. You’ll possibly find that that actually
motivated you to consider doing the task. Really imagine it’s true,
imagine you just got off the phone with your boss, they were really
pumped up and excited about giving you that raise for completing that
task. Pretty soon you will feel a whole lot more motivated to do it.
Note: Keep the perception positive rather than negative, ie: imagine
the boss is going to give you a raise for doing it rather than
imagining he’ll fire you for not doing it. Positive outcomes are much
more compelling and motivational than negative ones.
Try it and see – it’s just a theory!
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John Assaraf (star of The Secret) is the creator of the Vision Board
idea. In a nutshell you get yourself a corkboard or something similar
and you cover it in pictures/words and anything else to hand that
represent the things you love in your life AND the things you’d love
to have in your life.
You get magazines, newspapers, mailers, books etc. and you take the
images out that best illustrate what it is you value. You pin them on
the board and then keep the board in a place that you can see every
day. In your office or study or kitchen or hallway, whatever,
someplace that you know you’ll see it every day.
The idea is that by seeing these images each and every day you allow
yourself to get into the same vibration as what you see. Your dream
home or car for example. Or your dream lifestyle, job or even your
partner. You might want to believe that by seeing these images every
day your subconscious mind ends up creating ways to help you get them.
Whatever you believe – it works! Don’t get bogged down in the how,
just try it and see.
For more info on John Assaraf go here: www.praxisnow.com
Newton’s Law that states every action has an opposite and equal
reaction, ie: the positive energy of gratitude you send out will come
back to you. Help and be helped in return. That’s not to say ‘help’
and expect to be ‘helped’ in return by that person or any other
person. Just know that you will be helped somehow. Thank and be
thanked. Give and be given.
Some of you might be thinking Newton didn’t mean it that way. You
might think that Newton was just talking about physical forces like
the butt of a rifle forcing it’s way into your shoulder with the same
force that the bullet propels from the barrel. But I will argue that
it’s all energy. And if Newton was around today and got to grips with
Quantum Mechanics he would agree with me. Everything is energy and
therefore any form of energy is subject to his Law.
For practical uses Scott Ginsberg writes about duality in a similar
way in his book ‘Ideas Are Free Execution Is Priceless’ (p.131) where
he suggests embracing opposites in order to be successful. One example
he uses is being patient with an equal amount of impatience. Patient
with the process, understanding that things don’t always go the way or
the speed you planned and impatient enough to get moving with ideas
without waiting until every tiny detail has been considered.
Think of how you could use this concept today.
This was the life changing moment for me.
A few years ago I met a hypnotherapist at an alternative health centre
open day. He’s also an NLP practitioner. I got the opportunity to sit
with him for 40 minutes or so to experience a sample of what he does.
He started by asking the question above: ‘If you could change one
thing about yourself today, what would it be?’
Not expecting the question, I said the first thing that came into my
head (I have since realised that is how to get the subconscious mind
to speak) which was: ‘I’d like to make better decisions quicker.’
He then took me through a series of mental exercises, visualisations
and ‘make believes’. The result was a feeling of euphoric realisation
as I walked the short distance home. I was going to make decisions
quicker, in fact I had just decided that – right there and then!
The man’s name is Mick McEvoy and you can learn more about him and
what he does by going to: www.YourCalmCoach.co.uk
Thanks again Mick!
This is the most valuable quality someone can have if you ask me. The
term ‘resourceful’ can apply to what you might need to survive. It can
apply to what you might need to succeed in business. It might apply to
what you might need in order to have the relationships that you
If you are a resourceful person you can get anything done. Start every
problem solving moment with the question: ‘How can I…” and allow
your mind to go off and find the answer. Before you know it you’ll be
thinking of all sorts of ways to get to where you want to be.
As you find your own ways of being resourceful write them down. Keep
them handy and apply them to every situation you find yourself stuck
in. You can use the same mindset that you use in business as you do in
your relationships – you’ll have to put a new angle on it but the
strategy will work.
Keep in mind the Neale Donald Walsch saying: ‘The quickest way to get
what you want is to help someone else get it first.’
If you’ve ever felt like you don’t have enough time to get everything
done that you need to do on a daily basis then try this strategy
devised by the Internet Marketing/Property genius – Dean Jackson.
In a nutshell Dean identifies 4 Reactive Activator areas common to most of us:
1. Email 2. The phone 3. People 4. Thoughts
These are the most common distractors we face daily.
Dean devised the GOLF strategy to combat them.
Goal – set yourself a task you want to
Optimal Environment – go to where you’re most likely to get
Limited Distractions – remove anything that will distract you,
phones, computers, etc.
Fixed Timescale – set a timer for how long you need
The analogy is that if you decided to play a round of golf you’d have
to set aside approx. 4 hours of your time to do that. Whilst you’re
playing golf for 4 hours you’re not able to email, or phone, or get
bugged by colleagues (as long as you turn your mobile device off).
The tricky part is eliminating your thought distractions. For this he
suggests spending 50 minutes writing down as many thoughts as you can,
big, small, weird, irrelevant, important – whatever! This now reduces
the chance you will have a rogue thought distract you while you’re
doing your task.
I can’t do this justice here without writing a few pages so I suggest
you check out his video (if it’s still available) at:
In it he explains and clarifies the whole process.
What kind of mood are you in? Funny sort of question isn’t it? What
mood are you in?
If you’re IN a mood – good, bad or indifferent – then it stands to
reason that you can get OUT of that mood. But did you realise that You
can choose to get in or out of a mood?
Imagine for a moment that you receive a phone call. It’s the tax man
and he tells you that your tax has been incorrectly calculated and you
owe them £10,000. Holy cow! And he wants it by the end of the week or
you’ll get a further £1000 fine. How would you feel? Pretty upset and
anxious I would bet. Then the phone rings again. It’s the tax man, he
apologises and says he read it incorrectly and actually they owe You
£10,000. Woohoo! Now how do you feel? You start dancing around the
room, then the phone goes again. Yep, you guessed it – the tax man
again. He apologises profusely, he got the wrong name and it’s
actually someone else who is owed the £10,000. Now how do you feel?
Bit of a roller-coaster right?
The thing is, at no time were you under physical threat and at no time
were you having an exciting experience. It was all happening in your
mind. You were having the thoughts about how you were going to raise
£10k then, how you were going to spend £10k.
So examine how you’re feeling today and ask yourself why you’re
feeling that way. What thoughts are creating that feeling. Just be
aware is all. That simple exercise can often help you find calmness
when you need it.
This is difficult for a lot of people – yes, me included. When you’re
‘open’ you are vulnerable. We don’t like to feel vulnerable, it’s in
our genes to keep ourselves safe. When we lived in caves it meant
being physically safe from a bear or a wolf or even our tribe. I would
imagine that a wrong look in those days could have been looked upon as
confrontational. (Still does in places.)
So, we began to hide what we were thinking lest it showed on our face.
In today’s sophisticated society a facial expression is still a
measure of what we might be thinking consciously or subconsciously. So
we find more and more ways to try and keep our thoughts and feelings
covered up, private.
Today, find a safe environment to be open. With a family member or a
best friend or anyone you trust. Start there. I think you’ll find that
with some practice you’ll prefer to be open often. We’re not talking
over-sharing here by the way! It’s a bit indulgent to offer gratuitous
information so understand why you’re being open. This is about
suppressed feelings that might be causing blocks in your life – not
sharing the gory details of your gall bladder operation. 🙂
Remember, if you need to be open with someone about their behaviour,
tread carefully and speak kindly.
I saw this really interesting video yesterday featuring Phil Parker, a Hynotherapist, NLP Practitioner and Osteopath amongst other things.
In it he discusses how what we say to ourselves on a daily basis can have huge implications on our health, wealth, success and happiness. He argues that when we say things beginning with: ‘I am angry because…‘ or ‘ My boss made me feel…‘ we are behaving passively – the outside world is happening to us, and we’re helpless to alter it. He coined the term: ‘dû’ or ‘dûing’ to explain how by realising that we aren’t ‘angry’ but we are in fact ‘doing‘ angry, which means we have the power to ‘do‘ something else. He spells his word ‘du’ to signify the conscious awareness of ‘doing’.
It’s a fascinating talk which lasts approx. 20 mins but I urge you to take a look. It might be just the thing you’re looking for.
To watch the video paste this quicklink into your browser: http://bit.ly/wyEG93
Learning is a passion of mine. When I was at school however, I found
many of the lessons dull, boring, mundane and tedious. Subjects that
today I find fascinating; history, geography, biology, science,
literature. It boils down to the way we learn. At school these
subjects were taught out of text books or via the blackboard. Groan! I
wasn’t engaged, my imagination wasn’t stirred.
Maybe it’s an age thing, that as we get older we become more
interested in the world at large and how it got that way. But I don’t
think so. Bob Proctor said once that a child, up to the age of five or
six, would rather learn than do anything. If you think about it a
child’s brain is programmed to learn just as a matter of survival.
Considering our brain grows more outside of the womb than the nine
months inside it, which is more than any other animal, suggests that
learning is the most valuable asset we have. Intelligence however is
the result of the cumulation of knowledge whereas wisdom is the result
of experience. If we allow experience and knowledge to combine we can
take our learning to new heights. This learning will allow us to take
advantage of more opportunitites which in turn will give us new
experiences. If we continue to learn from them – hopefully we’ll get a
little wiser in the process.