How to heal that relationship.

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

If you’re part of my ‘Ponders, Quotes and Questions‘ group you will already have seen this today, but I really wanted to share it with my subscribers too – especially with Thanks Giving just gone and Christmas around the corner.

This is a time of year where good relationships get stronger and not so good ones can become even more tense and stressed.

So this was today’s Ponder:

“If you’re struggling with a relationship in your life, rather than look at what’s going wrong, find something really right about it.

Now see if there’s an opportunity to do more of that.

Ask yourself: ‘What little thing would I notice first if things were great between us?’

Think about what comes up.”

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Enjoy

Stu

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How to become more creative.

Stuart Young, London, UK

This is November 28th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to do something differently.

If you want to learn how to be more creative… read on.

If you’re a creature of habit like me then doing things differently goes against the grain. I actually advocate in the strongest terms that making certain tasks habitual is integral to you getting them done.

Having said that, by doing things a bit differently from time to time we step out of the boredom of routine, we engage our minds and our creativity and we give ourselves the opportunity to find a new way. A better way maybe.

By doing this often we may find that the way we are doing something is the best way – so we get reassurance. But we may find new interesting, time saving, stress relieving ways that would otherwise remain unknown.

Engage someone else in this process and your combined efforts may reap rich rewards.

You’ll only know by trying.

New studies also suggest that by doing an everyday task differently just before you want to do something creative actually improves your creative faculty. Try it.

Enjoy

Stu

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3 thought provoking posts you missed…

Hiya,

If you haven’t subscribed to my new blog already, here are 3 posts you missed recently that you may find very thought provoking:

A great way to take your mind off life’s stresses.

How to change jobs.

How to stop being judgemental.

Enjoy

Stu

Learn how to tap into your own powerful intuition.

Stuart Young, London, UK

This is November 26th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to imagine you could talk with anyone from history. What would you ask them?

Can you imagine how brilliant that would be? Anyone at all. Ask them anything. What would you ask? More importantly, how would they answer?

That is the point of this exercise. Allow your subconscious to decide how you think that incredible person from history would answer your question.

Spend a minute with your eyes closed just remembering everything about ‘that’ person. What they stood for and believed in. Why you admire them so much. Imagine how their voice would sound.

Then, get a pad, write your question down, then sit for a while imagining in as much detail as possible that person from history answering. Write their answer under your question. Write it as quickly as possible – ask them to slow down for you if you need to, they will. But capture their answer as quickly as it comes so that your own mind doesn’t try and filter or censor it.

This is a great way to tap into your own wisdom and intuition.

Enjoy

Stu

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How to change your point of view.

This is November 23rd of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to play Devil’s Advocate.

Anyone that knows me knows this is my favourite standpoint.

Not because I want to be obstinate. It’s because I think the most interesting debates happen when not everyone is in agreement. I take the Devil’s Advocate standpoint when I do agree – just to open the discussion to alternate ideas.

From this standpoint it’s only a small step to consider changing your belief about something too.

This can become quite heated so put your diplomacy hat on.

“ Debate and convergence of views can only enrich our history and culture. ” ~ Ibrahim Babangida

Enjoy

Stu

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How to BE who you want to Be.

This is November 22nd of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to contemplate your Be-Do-Have paradigm.

In explaining how to BE who you want to Be the brilliant Neale Donald Walsch writes:

“The ‘Be-Do-Have Paradigm’ is one way of looking at life. This outlook on life, if reversed, could change your life – for the better. Because what is true about this paradigm is that most people have it all backwards.”

“Most people started out (I know I did) with the understanding that how life worked was like this: Have-Do-Be. That is, when I HAVE the right stuff, I can DO the right things, and then I will get to BE what I want to be.

Example: When I HAVE enough money I can DO the thing called buy a house and I can BE the thing called secure. Want one more? Here goes: when I HAVE enough time I can DO the thing called take a vacation and I can BE the thing called rested and relaxed.

See how it works? This is how my father, my school, my society told me that it works. Life works this way. The only problem was, I was NOT getting to BE the things I thought I was going to get to BE after I had done all that I thought I had to DO, and had all the things that I thought I needed to HAVE. Or, if I did get to BE that, I only got to be it for a short period of time.”

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I have paraphrased the above due to the room I have, but essentially life works: BE-DO-HAVE , that is – BE what you want by DOing what you want and you will end up HAVing what you want, not HAVE-DO-BE.

Look at your life to date this way, and see what you recognise.

To find out about N. D. Walsch visit: http://www.NealeDonaldWalsch.com

Enjoy

Stu

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It’s all in your perspective.

Do you see a cube frame?

Hiya,

Interesting visual illusions like the Necker Cube above give us clues of how our senses perceive the outer world. You probably see a cube framework with three white bands crossing in front diagonally. It’s all to do with perspective. If you squint it’s easier.

Once you see it ask yourself: Is the nearest face to the bottom right or top left? People will see this differently.

So, are we doing this on a psychological level too? Are we seeing things differently to others? Are we experiencing events differently to others?

If so, what’s true? Whose truth is true?

Change your perspective, look at things differently, and see what a difference it makes to your experience.

To enjoy more of these visual illusions click here.

Enjoy

Stu

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What seed of genius is inside you?

This is November 19th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to visit an awe inspiring building.

Whenever I go on holiday, anywhere, I’m always looking for interesting buildings to admire. I find it hard to walk past a beautiful church without going inside for a look around. There’s a reason why religions put so much time, money and effort into creating fantastic architecture – it inspires us! It never ceases to amaze me that hundreds of years ago builders were able not only to design such incredible structures but were also able to build them. No cranes, no theodolites, no hightech machinery. Just craftsmanship and engineering prowess.

If you want to feel inspired there is no quicker way in my book than to experience something awesome in nature – and remember, we are in nature every bit as much as the great redwoods or termite mounds. Be inspired by what your fellow man has created and realise that you have the seed for that genius inside you, just waiting to manifest in your own special way.

Enjoy

Stu

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How to change jobs

Hiya,

Whether you want to change your job or change the company you work for, or even start your own business there’s ONE thing you absolutely must do – Change Your Mindset.

Most people think their qualifications or skills or network are the most important factors in how to change jobs and create the career of their dreams – WRONG! It’s our Mindset that determines the results we get in life. Your Mindset is made up of your beliefs, past experiences and associations you have about those experiences – good or bad!

Read more…

Getting the Most From Anger

Excellent article on anger – love the very last question at the foot…

Leadership Freak

Our discomfort with anger speaks to its power. But, those who don’t get angry don’t care.

Anger is uncomfortable because it ruins lives. The term “frustration” is more comfortable. “I’m not angry,” we say, “I’m just frustrated.”

Anger is passion.

Anger is a gift.

“Sometimes, you have to get angry to get things done.” Ang Lee

The voice of anger:

Anger says:

1. I’m not getting what I want.
2. I feel powerless, stuck, or abused.
3. I don’t like this.
4. Something needs to change.
5. That’s not right. One reason things don’t get better is we aren’t angry enough.

Anger motivates change.

Getting the Most From Anger:

Show me a leader who uses anger wisely and I’ll show you a success.

Focus and direct anger, don’t vent or suppress it.

Seven questions:

1. What behaviors need to stop? Beginnings begin with stopping. Anger provides courage to stop.
2. What do I want?
3. What don’t I…

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