How To Ignore Negative Comments.

Cartoon of negative comment towards employee

Look familiar?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

Do you ever get negative comments at work, or even about work?

Maybe they are comments about your skills or abilities, maybe they’re comments about your achievements or commitment.

If you think about them honestly you might even agree with some of them. If you do, maybe you are in the wrong job!

You could decide to avoid those negative people that you can, and ignore the negative comments of the ones you can’t. But that might be burying your head in the sand.

Maybe you hear negative comments when talking about your ambitions and dreams. If you think the comments are unwarranted then just say in your mind ‘They don’t know me’ every time they bring you down with words like:

…be realistic…’ or

…you’re no good at that…’ or

…I don’t think that’s your strength…’ etc.

As you learn to do this you will believe in yourself more and more. And that’s a good feeling.

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Enjoy

Stu

:)

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6 responses to “How To Ignore Negative Comments.

  1. I think the key is to learn the difference between negative comments that are simply negative, and constructive criticism… whether from yourself or someone else.
    If someone else’s ‘negative comment’ is actually a hurtful but honest truth, be realistic and take it on board. If it’s just a put down, then walk away, a little stronger to achieve your dreams – don’t let that be the reason that you’re looking back this time next year, regretfully finding yourself exactly where you are now.
    Thanks for your posts and wise words, Stuart – they’ve been really helpful to me.
    Emma 🙂

    • Thanks Emma, absolutely we have to decide where the truth in comments lies AND the motive behind them. I hope the post empowers people just enough to question in that way. 🙂

  2. I am working with a practice now where they old time employees were harassing the new hire, telling her negativities about how she was doing things. When it came down to finding out the reason it was more of the fact that they felt threatened by the new younger employee and her ability navigate their computer system and her advanced ideas of marketing. In this case we had to have an open discussion about change and the difficulties. For the first few weeks the new employee thought she was in e wrong job, but things are getting better 🙂

  3. Great post Stuart,
    I know I’m late to the discussion but it’s a topic that affects a lot of people in many areas of life. You’ve mentioned before that negative comments from others are especially difficult to hear when you have your own negative comments going on inside your head. That was a big revelation to me, so when I hear others make negative comments and I bristle at them, I have to take a look at my own beliefs to see what I may need to get rid of myself.
    Thanks for all your hard work and willingness to share to help us improve our lives 🙂

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