Do Your Possessions Give You Confidence?

What do yours mean?

Hiya,

I can see that having all of my possessions around me provides proof that I’m ‘worth it’ as L’Oreal says.

I worked hard, I used my intellect and integrity to provide the funds necessary to buy these things. They validate me – I NEED THEM !

Really? Do I?  – NO.

I want to move to a bigger, nicer, house – WHY? So I can have further evidence of my worth. So I can show those that know me that I am capable, clever, hardworking and I CAN DO THIS!

I don’t need to earn a fortune, just enough to be financially FREE. Does that mean I’m not worth a fortune? Maybe, is that what I believe?

I only feel confident when I’m talking about something I know a lot about or doing something I know I can do. Is that true? Is that really true? Can I feel confident talking and doing that which I don’t fully know? Who would TRUST me?

Aha, my possessions therefore show others they can trust me. TRUST is one of my main values. It’s important for me to trust others and for them to trust me. I can create trust by showing that I have integrity and I’ll always do my best. Are my possessions a visible sign of that?

So, do I need to know EVERYTHING?

Maybe! Maybe, I can point the way, maybe the power is in the questions. Am I confident about that. YES. Do I trust the questioning process? YES. It’s the only place from where discovery is made.

Resistance to the exercises teachers give us may come from NOT wanting to discover the answers. One question to ask is why won’t you do an exercise? What might you find out that will prove to be uncomfortable?

We say we don’t have time or do we just create DISTRACTIONS? If we do, why? So that we don’t discover? Ignorance is BLISS so they say. It is, BUT ignorance keeps us in the dark.

Make TIME to discover. I like to help others discover. I like to facilitate that. By asking questions.

What questions?

Penetrating ‘why’ questions. Why, why, why? How do we know when we get to the root ‘why’? – We FEEL it.

We know already – we’re discovering it, uncovering it, revealing it, shining a light on it. We’ll know when we KNOW.

That was my own investigation into how my possessions influence my confidence – will you ask how yours influence You?

 

This post was inspired by my own lessons from one of my teachers – SoulDancer (Yes, his real name!). Thanks Soul.

Enjoy

Stu

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Can You Make Your Workday Better?

If you’re fed up at work quitting may not be the answer, try this first…

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Many of our jobs are very stressful and hectic.  At times is it hard to be thankful when we are “under the gun” to perform and produce.

I have talked to people who are unhappy with their work situation and feel that there is no way that things could ever change.   If this sounds like you, you might want to take a look at Stuart Young’s new book “Do You Hate Your Job?”

Even for those who enjoy their job, they tend to forget how lucky they are and the paycheck it provides to take care of their needs.

Being thankful for what we do have each day can change our attitude very quickly, to one that allows us to see our life in a more positive way.

Listed below are five questions to ask yourself each day that will help you keep in check as to what is important…

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What you MUST do next…

Just one step at a time

Hiya,

Another Monday at the same old job? Then you must take the next step.

If you have read, or are still reading my new eBook “Do You Hate Your Job?” then please read this post carefully. I wrote the book to help people struggling with their job or career. To that end, let me know if the book didn’t answer your questions or doubts.

Let me know in what other way you might still be stuck and I will try and help you. Just reply below or email your question direct to me at: stuart.young40@googlemail.com  (totally confidential).

There is a light at the end of this tunnel by the way, there is a way out if your suffering self doubt, confusion or frustration, and a way to enjoy your job as much as any other part of your life.

Seem unlikely?

It did to me too 10 years ago. Now that’s a long and distant memory. Do I still work hard – oh yeah, but I enjoy almost every minute of it. Do I still get frustrated? Yep, but now I at least feel in control of my own destiny and the direction of my career.

And I can show you how to find a place where you feel like that too. Learn about the process that I went through all those years ago right here: ONE STEP

Do you know what your next step is?

Take care

Stu

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The Power of Syntax in Creating Lasting Change

Hiya,

Syntax describes the structure of a language and how it is used to communicate.

The importance of Syntax when we communicate is absolute (whether we are talking to ourselves OR someone else).

I just wrote an article for the website SelfGrowth.com – one of the biggest self improvement sites on the web. In it I share:

• ‘How’ syntax can change the meaning of a sentence
• ‘Why’ this is important
• And how to best create a positive message

To Read the Full Article —->  CLICK HERE  <—-

Enjoy

Stu

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PS: “Do You Hate Your Job?” is finally available on Kindle if that’s how you prefer to read books these days, but you can still get a free pdf copy delivered direct to your inbox—> RIGHT HERE

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Overcoming Your Fears…

Hiya,

I wrote a post on my other blog yesterday which features an excellent (short) video from Brendon Burchard talking about the three types of fear we feel when thinking about moving towards our goals.

Insightful, take a look here —-> READ MORE HERE

I encourage you to take 10 minutes to watch it if you do experience anxiety when making choices to follow your passions and interests – especially job related.

We get so hung up on security we actually limit our experience of life.

Take a look today – you’ll be glad you did.

Enjoy

Stu

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PS: “Do You Hate Your Job?” will finally be available on Kindle as from today (fingers crossed) but you can still get a free copy —> RIGHT HERE

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Do You Hate This Too?

Litterbugs drive me mad!

Hiya,

OK, I can’t remember seeing a street as bad as the pic above, and yes – hate is a strong word!

Having said that, when I see people drop their rubbish on the floor or throw it out of car windows it demonstrates their ignorance and lack of responsibility.

I see young and old doing it, rich and poor and I really do believe that people this selfish can’t be happy. On that level I feel sorry for them – what sad lives they must lead if they have no respect for their environment or anybody else’s.

Out of sight out of mind, the saying goes and I wonder whether these people actually even see the mess they and others like them cause!

So, why am I writing about this here?

Because it’s this very attitude that keeps people stuck. Stuck in relationships they don’t like, in environments they don’t like and in in jobs they don’t like.

To these people it’s always someone else’s fault that they live the lives they live. They take no responsibility for changing themselves in order to change their circumstances. These are people I can’t work with.

There’s an old joke that goes: “How many psychologists does it take to change a lightbulb? Answer: Just one, but the lightbulb has to ‘want‘ to change.” Funny but also rooted in truth. Unless we actually decide that it’s us that have to change to change our situation, then we’ll never lead the lives we desire.

Taking more responsibility = taking more control.

Rant over.

Stu

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Enjoy taking responsibility

Do You Know The 4 Most Important Questions To Changing?

Crossing the River

Hiya,

A while back when I was getting ready to launch my book ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘ I decided to create a street video to help promote it.

I had only one question that I wanted to ask of many complete strangers: WHAT ONE THING YOU WOULD LIKE TO CHANGE ABOUT YOURSELF?

I wanted to document how different people would answer the same question, based on their own lives and circumstances. What I found was in many, many cases their answer led me to ask another question, then another, then a final question. (A process I now call ‘Crossing The River‘).

It was in these instances that those asked gave the most considered responses, delving deeper and deeper into the issue. In many cases they actually answered the most penetrating question they had probably been asked in years, if not decades.

They were as surprised by their answers as I was.

Remarkable considering that not one interview took more than two minutes to complete, AND they were complete strangers to me!

Many wanted to change things about their appearance, some about bad habits they had and some about the way they thought about themselves or others. I was moved and surprised at just how candid these people were, how open. I sincerely hope that some of them went home that day and actually made the change they said they wanted.

So what are the four questions you MUST ask yourself if you want to make any change in your life, whether it’s to do with your relationships, your achievements, your lifestyle, your health, wealth and happiness or your career?

Bare in mind the change MUST be about YOU – not your boss, or your neighbour, or the economy or anything else that you cannot influence.

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Let me suggest that you get someone else to ask you these questions – a close friend or family member or even a colleague. Answer the first one before getting them to ask the second. Then answer that before they ask you the third, and so on.

Answer as quickly as possible too as this is where the revelation is, when your mind doesn’t have time to dwell on and possibly filter the answer. It doesn’t take long – as I said, of the 30 or so interviews I did on that cold day in February, not one took longer than two minutes!

Crossing The River

Here are the 4 questions:

1. What is the ONE thing you’d like to change about YOURSELF today? (This is not about your circumstances, this is about YOU.)

2. Why do you want to make that change?

3. How will you make that change?

4. What’s stopping you?

Make a note of them, then forget about them until you have chosen someone to help you with this insightful exercise. If you decide you want to do them on your own then answer the first question NOW. Quick – answer!

To see the video CLICK HERE – it’s 9 min 41 long, I hope you enjoy.

Take care

Stu

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Overcoming Life’s Battles

My comment, his reply

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

I was chatting with James Arthur Ray, of hit movie ‘The Secret‘ fame the other day. When I say chatting – I mean I commented on his blog post and he replied. 🙂

I’ve been reading his latest ‘Do You Love Life or Fantasy‘ series and I recommend you take a look CLICK HERE

If you’re not familiar with James then Google him, but believe me when I say he’s been through the biggest battle of his life recently.

How we ‘think‘ at difficult times is THE KEY to moving through the experience, and coming out the other side more swiftly and with hope for a brighter future.

His posts led me to formulate a process called The 3 ‘A’s:-

1. Accept – What is, not more or less, just What IS. How we’re feeling is valid. Accept that.
2. Acknowledge – How it got that way – honestly. IE: Take responsibility for whatever part you may have played, and you almost invariably have.
3. Ask – Question what all of that means, and ask how you move forwards.

James has his own variation where he adds another two ‘A’s – Act and Adjust.

If you’ve been through a battle recently, or are in the midst of one now – consider these today. And please take a look at James’ blog posts, they’re insightful.

Enjoy

Stu

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