We each have a slightly different idea of Christmas, what it means, how it makes us feel etc. But there is one thing that is the same for all of us…
A number of factors will lead us to the feeling of Christmas. I mean, if you went to sleep on November 15th and woke up on Christmas Day I’m betting you wouldn’t feel very Christmassy (apart from the obvious discombobulation!). A set series of experiences will lead you to the eventual feeling.
For some it’s the buying of gifts that makes them ‘feel‘ Christmassy. For others it’s the weather, carol singers, Christmas movies, Christmas songs on the radio or even festive food. For me it’s a combination of all these things. They each add to each other to create a nostalgic, excited state of mind.
So why do I mention this, it’s obvious right?
The point is that ‘any‘ state of mind works the same way. Happy, sad, excited, miserable, disappointed, exhilarated, etc. They all require a set of catalysts: sounds, smells, words, memories, visual cues, physical experiences and so on.
The trick then is to be aware of ‘what‘ cues are creating the feelings you are having. If they are pleasurable feelings then you can actually create them at will by seeking out the cues deliberately. If they are uncomfortable feelings that crop up you can learn to avoid the catalysts that cause them.
Go in to 2017 with a determination to be aware of what is creating the feelings you are having – then decide whether you want more or less of them.
Live more deliberately.
You know what I mean right? Sure you do. I could sit here and write a page of words that show you what they might be but I’d only be scratching the surface wouldn’t I?
We’ve all got stuff going on that we say is this or that. But we know it’s not. I mean it could look that way to the untrained eye, to the casual observer, but we know it’s just a façade for what’s really going on.
Take a good look at it today, be as honest with yourself as you can. Allow the discomfort or maybe even pain of looking at it to come through. Welcome it. Once we open the cupboard door and shine a light in there we can see there was nothing to be afraid of.
I know this’ll be hard for a lot of people – me included, so lets all dig deep and give it a try.
What will you take a look at today?
Enjoy (if you can)
Uh-oh! If you’re anything like me that could be a mighty long list. From clearing the garage to swapping that duff lightbulb in the cupboard to cleaning the inside of the car to booking that dentist appointment we all put stuff off.
Well, tackle one of them today. Make it the easiest one if you want, but do one.
You’ll be proud of yourself afterwards.
(This is May 30th of my book “How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time” – available on Amazon here: CLICK HERE )
PS: It’s also available on Kindle HERE
Syntax describes the structure of a language and how it is used to communicate.
The importance of Syntax when we communicate is absolute (whether we are talking to ourselves OR someone else).
I just wrote an article for the website SelfGrowth.com – one of the biggest self improvement sites on the web. In it I share:
- ‘How’ syntax can change the meaning of a sentence
- ‘Why’ this is important
- And how to best create a positive message
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Litterbugs drive me mad!
OK, I can’t remember seeing a street as bad as the pic above, and yes – hate is a strong word!
Having said that, when I see people drop their rubbish on the floor or throw it out of car windows it demonstrates their ignorance and lack of responsibility.
I see young and old doing it, rich and poor and I really do believe that people this selfish can’t be happy. On that level I feel sorry for them – what sad lives they must lead if they have no respect for their environment or anybody else’s.
Out of sight out of mind, the saying goes and I wonder whether these people actually even see the mess they and others like them cause!
So, why am I writing about this here?
Because it’s this very attitude that keeps people stuck. Stuck in relationships they don’t like, in environments they don’t like and in in jobs they don’t like.
To these people it’s always someone else’s fault that they live the lives they live. They take no responsibility for changing themselves in order to change their circumstances. These are people I can’t work with.
There’s an old joke that goes: “How many psychologists does it take to change a lightbulb? Answer: Just one, but the lightbulb has to ‘want‘ to change.” Funny but also rooted in truth. Unless we actually decide that it’s us that have to change to change our situation, then we’ll never lead the lives we desire.
Taking more responsibility = taking more control.
Enjoy taking responsibility
Feel like this in Your job?
Stuart Young, London, UK
The brilliant Lifehack blog recently posted the 17 Signs You’ve Been Staying In The Same Job Too Long – take a look, it’ll make you smile!
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Stuart Young, London, UK
I wrote an article for SelfGrowth.com recently, probably the biggest self improvement website on the internet with around 2 million views per month.
The article takes a look at whether you can actually fall back in love with your job – even if you have to do it for another company.
It also happens to be an excerpt from my latest book: “Do You Hate Your Job?” which you can get in full, at no cost, right here: –> CLICK HERE <–
You can read the full article here: –> SelfGrowth