Overcoming Life’s Battles

My comment, his reply

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

I was chatting with James Arthur Ray, of hit movie ‘The Secret‘ fame the other day. When I say chatting – I mean I commented on his blog post and he replied. 🙂

I’ve been reading his latest ‘Do You Love Life or Fantasy‘ series and I recommend you take a look CLICK HERE

If you’re not familiar with James then Google him, but believe me when I say he’s been through the biggest battle of his life recently.

How we ‘think‘ at difficult times is THE KEY to moving through the experience, and coming out the other side more swiftly and with hope for a brighter future.

His posts led me to formulate a process called The 3 ‘A’s:-

1. Accept – What is, not more or less, just What IS. How we’re feeling is valid. Accept that.
2. Acknowledge – How it got that way – honestly. IE: Take responsibility for whatever part you may have played, and you almost invariably have.
3. Ask – Question what all of that means, and ask how you move forwards.

James has his own variation where he adds another two ‘A’s – Act and Adjust.

If you’ve been through a battle recently, or are in the midst of one now – consider these today. And please take a look at James’ blog posts, they’re insightful.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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What If You Could?

What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

What if you could … what?

What if you could meet the partner of your dreams? What if you could be as fit as a top athlete? What if you could achieve all of your goals systematically. What if you could have the job you love doing?

We spend so much of our time thinking that we can’t, we forget to consider if we could.

What’s the point you might be asking.

Apart from the fact that thinking about achieving something that would make us feel great actually starts to make us feel great – the very act of thinking in that way actually makes us consider opportunities and options that we are blind to when we’re busy thinking we can’t.

Think about it – if I ask you to think of three reasons why you’ll never win the lottery, it’s impossible for you to come up with ways that you could win.

If I said look around where you are right now and find ALL the red things, you wouldn’t notice all the blue things because that’s not where you are putting your focus. You’d miss all the blue things.

Likewise with continually thinking you can’t – you miss those opportunities in front of you that may just prove that you can.

Try that today – just allow yourself to daydream about all the things you’d like in your life and, just for the purposes of dreaming, imagine that you can have those things. Ask yourself: What if I could…?

See what happens.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

How To Ignore Negative Comments (Pt.2)

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

The other day I posted on How To Ignore Negative Comments and I think it deserves further discussion.

Firstly, I think it would be a good idea to start with the premise that the negative comments are ungrounded, ie: not deserved.

(Of course if you being a total idiot about something expect some negative comments, listen to them, and stop being an idiot.)  🙂

So, what if they are ungrounded?

These can come from all quarters; what I refer to as the 3 Fs of Influence – Friend, Foe and Family. Some are well meaning, whereas some are just being mean.

Here are 5 questions to consider that can put you in the right Mindset to tackle them head on:

1. Are they true and does that even matter?
2. Do they reflect who you are?
3. Do they spur you on or deflate you?
4. How much do you value the opinion of the commenter?
5. How determined to continue are you?

Let’s take a look at them one at a time…

1. Are they true and does that even matter? – If someone tells you that you’re not a very good writer should that stop you from writing? Of course not. You can either ignore it and remind yourself that there have been many successful writers that weren’t actually very good technically. Or, you can use the comment to motivate yourself to learn more about writing so that you can improve. Either way – continue writing.

2. Do they reflect who you are? –  Taking the first example above, does the fact that you might not be a very competent writer detract from you being a writer? Of course not, no more than being an objectively poor painter does not mean you are not a painter. You are whatever you desire to be and no opinion from anyone else alters that.

3. Do they spur you on or deflate you? – This is nearing the crux of the issue, if the negative comment spurs you on – motivates you, then don’t ignore it. In fact, welcome comments of this nature. If on the other hand the comments deflate you, demotivate you, then applying a process like this one to determine what validity they have, this will help you see that other’s opinions have no baring on your ambitions and dreams. Many people told Edison to quit searching for a commercially viable lightbulb – but he didn’t quit, thankfully.

4. How much do you value the opinion of the commenter? – A good teacher will encourage you down your own chosen path. They might offer advice on potential course corrections along the way – in order to be helpful. A bad teacher will encourage you to pursue something based on their beliefs about what you should do. Decide how much value you put on the commenter’s comments and why. Are they trying to help you or steer you to a destination of their choice. As with good parenting, the role of a parent is to give their children the best environment they possibly can in which to make their own choices. Then let them.

5. How determined to continue are you? – This is the deciding factor on whether you continue with an endeavour or not. If you are easily swayed away from an activity ask yourself if it’s really what you wanted. If it wasn’t, then maybe the negative comment was actually useful advice. If not, if you feel an urge to continue, then do just that.

“The problem isn’t the problem. The problem is the way you are thinking about the problem.” ~ Dan Sullivan

The way we think determines every outcome in our life. If you want to master your own Mindset – learn how here: CLICK HERE

Enjoy

Stu

 PS: Don’t look back this time next year and find yourself exactly where you are now. Start thinking differently to create different results in your life – TODAY!

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What do you like about your job?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

Take the opportunity today to consider your job and find three things you’re happy with.

1. I’m quitting soon, or  2. the toilets are clean, etc. – do NOT count! 🙂

I understand this might be difficult for some. Try it though and see if you can ‘honestly’ find three things that you are happy with about your job.

This could be the start of you appreciating it for what it is. We’ve all heard the grass is greener right? Maybe if you stopped looking at what is ‘wrong’ with your job – just for today, you might find there’s a lot you actually like.

It must start with you, all of your happiness, contentedness, peacefulness etc. comes from the way you think about your circumstances.

If you get to the end of today and you really have struggled to find 3 things you like – you need to read my new eBook: “Do You Hate Your Job?“. It’s not very long, but it is laser focussed on helping you understand what you must do next.

Grab a copy now at NO COST, if not for you then for someone you know that’s struggling to get out of bed every work day.

Click here to get your copy.

Enjoy

Stu

Related posts: Monday ‘Back to Work’ Blues.

Are you capable of courage?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

This is p.48 of my book: ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘

Take the opportunity today to be courageous!

This might be in the face of adversity, it might be just being brave about something or it might be something really important like making a difficult decision.

Whether you’re nervous about that speaking engagement coming up or whether you need to muster the nerve to ask someone on a date – dig deep and do it. This one courageous moment could change your life. Forever!

I know this is one of those difficult challenges I spoke about at the beginning of this book but hopefully you have tried enough of the other challenges to give you some habitual momentum today.

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Maybe one of the courageous things you need to do is take a good look at your job and decide whether it makes you happy.

If it doesn’t do you know your next step?

If not, get a complimentary copy of my new eBook ‘Do You Hate Your Job?‘ which will reveal all the steps you need to take to go from tired and miserable to invigorated and excited at work.

Grab a copy now, if not for you then for someone you know

that’s struggling to get out of bed every work day.

   Get it right here.

Enjoy

Stu

Related posts: Getting to grips with fear and confusion.

Monday Back to Work Blues?

Want to change that?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

If you suffer from Monday back to work blues from time to time – or even ALL the time, read on…

I used to suffer from them too. And even if you don’t, even if you really like your job, you probably know someone that doesn’t, right?

Below is a contents list of what my new eBook “Do You Hate Your Job?” covers and it’s absolutely f.ree. I want to help as many people as I can escape the misery of working in a job they hate or get no satisfaction from – what a waste.

So here’s what you’ll discover in the book:

• How I Identified I Was In The Wrong JOB!
• If You Really Hate Your Job
• The Importance of Taking Time Away
• The Comfort & Riches Parable
• If Can You Fall In Love With Your Job
• How To Change Jobs (Steps 1, 2 and 3)
• The Real Cost Of Doing Nothing
• How to Make Big Decisions (Parts 1 and 2)
• Understanding Why Change Can Be Painful
• Mindset = Success
• Getting To Grips With Fear And Confusion

Within these chapters I deal with subjects like:

• What’s going on that bothers you?
• How you can change it
• What Are Your Options
• Finding Your #1 Opportunity
• My 5 Step Decision Making Process
• Understanding Required Resources
• The Power of Anchoring
• What to Do Next

…and much more.

Grab a copy now, if not for you then for someone you know that’s struggling to get out of bed every Monday morning. Get it right here.

Enjoy

Stu

Related posts:

The 3 Questions People That Hate Their Job Ask

Getting to Grips With fear and Confusion

The 3 Questions People That Hate Their Job Ask…

3 Questions You Probably Ask…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

If you are dissatisfied with your job at the moment you are probably asking one of 3 questions:

• 1. How can I enjoy my job more?
• 2. How can I find a new job?
• 3. How can I set up my own business?

Let’s look at them one at a time…

1. You might ask how you can enjoy your job more because you either like your work but just dislike who you’re working for – which could mean your immediate boss, your colleagues or maybe you dislike the department you’re working in. So how do you change that?

2. You might be wondering how you can find a new job because you have the same issues as number one, or you’ve come to the conclusion that you don’t actually like what you do. This could lead to a complete career change, so where do you start?

3. If you don’t want to continue working where you are now but can’t envisage being satisfied working for anyone else, then setting up on your own, either doing what you do now, or doing something completely different seems like the most desirable option. Again, where do you start?

Thankfully, my new eBook “Do You Hate Your Job?” deals with each of these issues one by one. So whether you find yourself asking question 1, 2 or 3 – the book will help you get clearer about what to do next.

And it just so happens you can get a f.ree copy right now right here. 🙂

What are you waiting for, 2014 is ticking away fast!

Enjoy

Stu

PS: Help someone you know that might hate their job by sending them this blog post – it might just change their life!

Are you really stuck?

Do you know the difference?

There’s a fine line between perseverance and flogging a dead horse. Understanding the difference is where success lies.

Enjoy

Stu

PS: If you feel like you’re flogging a dead horse in your present job situation then grab a no cost copy of my new eBook ‘Do You Hate Your Job?‘ right here. And start applying effort in the direction you desire today.

What are you afraid of?

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

Take the opportunity today to do something a bit scary!

When we do something scary we step towards our fear, even if it’s only a small step, even if it’s only a little fear. This is good practise for stepping towards something a lot scarier. This makes it easier to face even bigger fears.

Maybe that’s asking for a raise at work – a step towards it might be to imagine (or even write down) your ideal conversation with your boss.

Maybe you’re considering changing your job – in that case start by writing a list of all the skill sets you have and match them up to potential opportunities you have available (my new book can help you with this).

Make a habit of doing something a little bit scary and pretty soon you’ll be addressing those fears that have been holding you back from living the life you always dreamed of.

Baby steps lead to toddler steps, which lead to infant steps which lead to hops, skips and jumps – eventually leading to great big enormous leaps.

Take the first step today.

“ Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it. ” ~ Jack Canfield

Enjoy

Stu

PS: If you are having trouble seeing a way out of your present job situation then grab a no cost copy of my new eBook ‘Do You Hate Your Job?‘ right here. And start stepping towards your fear today.

Turning hobbies into cash!

Girl Abstract

Stuart Young, London, UK

Hiya,

One of the first things I did 10 years ago when I decided I hated my job, and that I was going to change that somehow – was look to my hobbies.

It was more about creating another income stream than replacing my job. It was just something I’d dreamt about for years but had never tried to realise.

The hobbie with the most potential for me was painting. I like to create abstract paintings. Friends and family were the recipients (mainly my sister), and they always encouraged me to pursue selling them – except my dad who just said: “What on earth is it? Who’s going to buy that?” Very encouraging. 🙂

So I started looking into ‘how‘ to sell them.

I went to galleries and art shops and eventually got some interest in a couple of pieces – if I could get them framed the art shop would try and sell them. As luck would have it, I knew of a framing wholesaler near to where I lived so I dropped them in.

A couple of days later I went back to collect them and got into conversation with the wholesaler about creating some paintings just for him.

Before long I was painting in every spare moment I had and the wholesaler was selling them as fast as I could paint them. Being a wholesaler he wasn’t paying me much but, I didn’t have to walk round dozens of shops and galleries. I didn’t have to leave paintings here, there and everywhere ‘hoping’ one would sell.

Instead I just painted and got paid.

To date I’ve sold over 600 paintings! A nice trickle of income.

Why am I telling you all this?

Because you may have a hobbie or two that you don’t think you can earn anything from, and you might be right. But it’s well worth getting out there and finding out. And broaden your view – think outside the box. The money might be in teaching that thing you do. Brainstorm ways in which others might want what you can do.

The excitement of pursuing my hobbie gave me motivation to try other things too – within 3 months I no longer worked in the job I hated.

Go make your own luck

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

PS: If you are having trouble seeing a way out of your present job then grab a no cost copy of my new eBook ‘Do You Hate Your Job?‘ right here. And start broadening your view today.

PPS: To take a look at some of my other art stuff visit my art blog here