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Getting over self doubt

Hiya,

What little voice in your head fills you with doubt?

Once you identify it, trace back to where it originated. Was it a critical parent or teacher?

Was it the bullying voices of peers. Over protective friends or family?

Once you know the origin ask yourself if there is any evidence to prove it might be correct.

My guess is that whatever evidence there may have been in the past is not valid now. Spend some time finding evidence to the contrary. It will dilute that doubt.

Enjoy

Stu

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The Psychology of Self-Motivation

Hiya,

Do you ever wonder why you just can’t get certain things done in your life. You know you want to but for some reason you always find something else to do instead.

Watch this short TED Talk – it may just throw some light on Why.

Enjoy

Stu

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Happy New Year…Or is it?

Hiya,

For the last few days I’ve found myself short tempered. Hair-triggered, if you know what I mean. Flaring up into a near rage over the tiniest things.

I then went on to ask myself the exact wrong question: Why am I short tempered at the moment?

It’s the wrong question because I already know my mind is going to find valid answers for ‘why’ I should be ill tempered; the dogs made a mess of the house, I couldn’t find what I needed in the cupboard because we have too much stuff, etc.

You may be feeling angry, or disappointed, or depressed, or confused at the moment too but feel that you ‘should’ be happier – after all..it’s Happy New Year, right?

Then this morning, whilst walking one of our dogs in the January drizzle I remembered the lesson I learned from Paul & Layne Cutright – “You’re Never Upset for the Reason You Think You Are”.

Suddenly, it became obvious.

The very thing I like to help others find: clarity, was the one thing I was searching for myself. Ironic.

I am in the process of expanding a particular business interest at the moment but had not gotten clear about ‘how’ I was going to proceed. Because I was confused I distracted myself from the task of getting clear.

This realisation immediately filled me with a sense of calm, the tension in my muscles physically lessened and I set about putting the process into action.

The rest of today I’ll be getting clearer and clearer about what I am going to do moving forwards, and just as importantly, what I’m not going to do in this new year.

Tip: If you are feeling a bit low at the moment instead of asking yourself why you feel low, ask – what will make me feel brighter, happier, excited?

And finally: Dan Rockwell recently wrote a blog post titled: Getting the Most From Anger. He suggested: When you feel angry, stop and observe yourself. Ask, will I be proud of what happens next?

Enjoy, get clear

Stu

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Do you see a storm approaching?

When a storm is approaching what do you do?

Look for shelter or prepare to get wet?

Storm approaching

What do you do?

Strive to thrive

Stu

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PS: This was today’s Ponder to my Ponders, Quotes and Questions group.

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What do you need to stop doing?

Hiya,

Ever heard of ‘sunk cost fallacy’?

It’s the psychology of continuing with an endeavour even though it may be fruitless simply because you have invested so much time in it already.

Even when we know the outcome will not be satisfying we continue so as not to feel that the time and effort already invested has not been wasted. Yet to add more time and effort is to add to that waste.

Consider today what do you need to stop doing?

Strive to thrive

Stu

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Change Your Mindset,

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A message of Hope…

What this world really needs is more Hope.

Take a moment to listen to the words from this enlightened young man.

Let’s all be the change.

Strive to thrive

Stu

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The importance of self awareness.

Picture of Anthony De Mello’s book ‘Awareness’

Learn self awareness

Hiya,

In Anthony De Mello’s book ‘Awareness’ he states:

Self-observation means to watch everything in you and around you as far as possible and watch it as if it were happening to someone else. It means that you do not personalize what is happening to you. It means that you look at things as if you have no connection with them whatsoever.

I think what he was getting at is we can choose how we feel about any circumstance at any moment by adopting this thought process. It’s similar to NLP’s disassociation technique.

If you distance yourself from the negative feelings you can be more objective about what the situation actually means. “Seeing it as it is – NOT worse than it is” as Tony Robbins would say.

But also, distancing yourself from positive feelings and neutral feelings as well can be equally fruitful. With practice we can see that at any moment we can ‘choose’ to feel however we wish just by thinking it. Sounds implausible at first doesn’t it? As I said – it takes practice.

Try it today and see how your experience, good or bad, alters.

Enjoy

Stu

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PS: To learn more about changing your mindset to bring more happiness, success and wellbeing into your life take a look at this

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