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Help others by being selfish…

Thought I’d share Neale Donald Walsch’s latest blog post:

“My Dear Friends…

When I was a child, I was told that love means thinking of others first.  Then Conversations with God said I should always put myself first.  Could this be right?  How could I reconcile this with my earlier life teachings?

The answer is that everything has to do with intentions.  If it is your intention in life to live the grandest version of the greatest vision you ever held about who you are, and if that vision of yourself is that you are loving, caring, generous, kind, compassionate, and truthful, then you will behave towards others in a way which could look like you are putting them first.  The difference is that you will be doing this not for others, but for yourself…because this is simplywho you are.

When we do things for others (or imagine that this is what we are doing), two insidious attitudes can appear:  Expectation and Resentment.  We may begin to expect that those for whom we are doing things now “owe” us, and we may experience growing resentment if they don’t “pay up.”

On the other hand, when we do things for ourselves (even if that results in nice things happening for others), it will be difficult to move into Expectation, and virtually impossible to build up Resentment…unless we clearly do not understand the nature of what is occurring.  That is, unless we ignore or deny that we are doing something for ourselves, and actually convince ourselves that we are doing it for another.

In truth, everything you do, you do for yourself, because every act is an act of self-definition.  All of life is a process of deciding Who You Are.  Your purpose is to experience that, and to recreate yourself anew in the next grandest version of it.  This is called Evolution.

So think of yourself first at every moment of decision.  Think of Who You Are, and of what you are trying to become.  Make the highest choice about that – paint the greatest picture you could ever imagine of Who You Are in every place and circumstance – and all the rest will take care of itself.

Love always, Neale”

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How to BE who you want to Be.

This is November 22nd of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to contemplate your Be-Do-Have paradigm.

In explaining how to BE who you want to Be the brilliant Neale Donald Walsch writes:

The ‘Be-Do-Have Paradigm’ is one way of looking at life. This outlook on life, if reversed, could change your life – for the better. Because what is true about this paradigm is that most people have it all backwards.

Most people started out (I know I did) with the understanding that how life worked was like this: Have-Do-Be. That is, when I HAVE the right stuff, I can DO the right things, and then I will get to BE what I want to be.

Example: When I HAVE enough money I can DO the thing called buy a house and I can BE the thing called secure. Want one more? Here goes: when I HAVE enough time I can DO the thing called take a vacation and I can BE the thing called rested and relaxed.

See how it works? This is how my father, my school, my society told me that it works. Life works this way. The only problem was, I was NOT getting to BE the things I thought I was going to get to BE after I had done all that I thought I had to DO, and had all the things that I thought I needed to HAVE. Or, if I did get to BE that, I only got to be it for a short period of time.


I have paraphrased the above due to the room I have, but essentially life works: BE-DO-HAVE , that is – BE what you want by DOing what you want and you will end up HAVing what you want, not HAVE-DO-BE.

Look at your life to date this way, and see what you recognise.

To find out about N. D. Walsch visit: http://www.NealeDonaldWalsch.com





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Are your emotions actually what they seem?

This is November 3rd of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to let go of any feelings of inadequacy.

Following on from the letting go theme of the last couple of days I thought I’d explore some other less identifiable emotions.

When you are feeling inadequate for example, it can often manifest as anger or shame or of being victimised. Be sure as you apply this process that you delve into the why of your feelings.

More often than not a different emotion lurks beneath the surface of another.

Compassion is NOT created as a result of conditions, certain conditions are created as a RESULT of compassion. ” ~ Neale Donald Walsch



Related post: Want to know how to get rid of negative emotions?


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Share a book that changed your life

The first book that inspired me to write

The first book that inspired me to write

A few days ago a friend of mine nominated, through an initiative in his workplace, MY book as one that has inspired him – he’s not much of a reader! 🙂  (Thanks Colin)

Then a couple of days ago, another friend – Tina of Practical Practice Management blogged about 10 books that have inspired her in some way.

This prompted my own blog on the subject. So listed below in chronological order are the books that have inspired me the most for one reason or another. Most are self improvement books, some are fiction that opened my mind in some way.

The Catcher in the Rye – by J D Salinger

Silva Mind Control – by José Silva

The Road Less Travelled – by M Scott Peck

Women Are From Venus Men Are From Mars – by John Gray

Conversations With God – by Neale Donald Walsch

Celestine Prophecy – by James Redfield

The Secret – by Rhonda Burne

Tuesdays With Morrie – by Mitch Albom

Northern Lights – by Philip Pullman

Unlimited Power – by Tony Robbins

If I did this list again tomorrow it might change as there are many other books that have inspired me including: The Power of Now, Think and Grow Rich, all the other NDW and M Scott Peck books, Starseed and many more.

I’d love to hear of a book that has inspired you in some way.




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Take the opportunity today to be resourceful.


This is the most valuable quality someone can have if you ask me. The
term ‘resourceful’ can apply to what you might need to survive. It can
apply to what you might need to succeed in business. It might apply to
what you might need in order to have the relationships that you

If you are a resourceful person you can get anything done. Start every
problem solving moment with the question: ‘How can I…” and allow
your mind to go off and find the answer. Before you know it you’ll be
thinking of all sorts of ways to get to where you want to be.

As you find your own ways of being resourceful write them down. Keep
them handy and apply them to every situation you find yourself stuck
in. You can use the same mindset that you use in business as you do in
your relationships – you’ll have to put a new angle on it but the
strategy will work.

Keep in mind the Neale Donald Walsch saying: ‘The quickest way to get
what you want is to help someone else get it first.’




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