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Take the opportunity today to try and understand something that upsets you.


This is April 15th page from my book “How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time.

   ‘You’re never upset for the reason you think.’ That’s the title of Paul and Layne Cutright’s #1 Amazon Bestselling book. It explores the root causes of why we are upset, presupposing that what we think we’re upset over is in actual fact a guise for something else completely.

If you find yourself getting upset over all sorts of things it’s possible they all have the same root cause. Once you identify that, you are well on your way to alleviating some, if not all, of the feelings associated with it including: anger, hurt, defensiveness, blame, guilt, shame, confusion etc.

If you do suffer from constant upset this exercise could seriously improve your life. Start by asking yourself: ‘What else could I really be getting upset about here?’ Just explore the possibility. It takes being brutally honest with yourself, are you ready for that?  




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Have you ever felt ashamed?

This is November 7th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to let go of any shame you feel.

Shame is a very personal emotion. Another which is closely linked to forgiveness and guilt.

If you are ashamed of your behaviour in the past ask for forgiveness – say sorry. If your shame lies in who you are or how you look or how you feel – explore those thoughts. You are perfect. Your thoughts might not be, so investigate the root cause of those thoughts. If they are valid then forgive yourself. If they’re not valid – let them go.

If the way you feel shames you, go through the same process of whether those feelings are valid or invalid.

I’ve certainly felt ashamed, but I decided that was me then, and this is me now. Effectively, the shame was the catalyst for change.

This is hard work I know, but the benefits are well worth it.

That’s the last of the letting go guides – promise!



Related post: Want to know how to get rid of negative emotions?


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