How do you know that what you want is really what you want?


This thought occurred to me as I was drifting off to sleep last night.

I had to get up and make a note of it so that it didn’t evaporate by morning.

So, we all have these dreams of living the life right? Lounging on the beach while a waiter brings us another cocktail. Riding through the woods on a sunny day without a care in the world. An alarm clock with no batteries in it – because you never need it again.

Those dreams of the good life.

But how do you know in advance if that’s really what you want?

Well, I’m going to explain how we can use one of Tony Robbins’ brilliant techniques to actually test that dream. And I’m going to reveal that technique………tomorrow!

For today, if you haven’t already, revisit your Perfect Day scenario. If you haven’t done that exercise – treat yourself here, it’s an enjoyable thing to do and often a real eye opener. If you have done it already, read it again today, see if it still resonates with you. If not, re-write it.

Tomorrow I’ll tell you how to put it to the test.





Filed under Goals, Life changing, Relationships, Self help, Self Improvement, Success

19 responses to “How do you know that what you want is really what you want?

  1. Hiya Stu,

    Can’t wait to see – Good question how do we know what we really want?
    Our spirit, our intution will let us know when we open our eyes and listen with our spiritual ears.

    In gratitude,

  2. Oh a perfect day.. I hate to settle for just being well but in my case that has been my earnest wish. I do want much much more and visualizing is definitely a great way to feed positiveness into your future path. It so vital to keep visualizing, dreaming and inspiring to. Thank you for your recent follow look forward to these exercises you share.

    • Thanks Maribel, I hope you found time to do the Perfect Day exercise because today I will post the test to see if it’s ‘really’ what you want. Are you ready? πŸ™‚

  3. Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow!

  4. Pingback: Understand what you REALLY want! | the ChangeYourLife blog

  5. thanks for your recent comment and like on my Not in India BLog. I also see you’ve begun following my Mindfulness Journal. Although I’ve posted there for many years and there is an enormous amount of hopefully inspiring posts there, I am no longer posting there regularly. So hope you will take time on your own to explore if it interests you. I f you enjoy photography, you might also enjoy my India Journal blog with posts covering years of my sojourns in India, including many photos. Again, thanks for your support. and a special thanks for bringing me here to your blog which looks wonderful. I will begin exploring today. πŸ˜€
    with love light and JOY

    • Hi Jane, thanks for visiting. I enjoyed your blog earlier today although it was making me a bit envious (translate: a lot envious!!). I will be sure to browse the Mindfulness site asap as I’m an advocate of that process. Thanks a lot. πŸ™‚

      • oh my goodness…what could you possibly by envious of? You seem to have put together a wonderful blog of your own which I still have to do some exploring of.
        much love light and JOY to you

      • In particular, I was envious of all your journeying through India, and the beautiful memories you have collected photographically. πŸ™‚ (Your blog is beautiful too!)

      • OK…understand! I thought you meant something about the blog itself…this of course makes more sense. Yes, I am truly blessed to be able to live part of each year (or almost each year) in India. I honestly believe that we can manifest any dream we truly desire, but it takes work. You might be interested in this post which talks a little about this…there are several other posts as well dealing in manifesting reality…but this one deals specifically in my living in India.
        enjoy…and live YOUR dreams!!
        with love light and JOY

    • Just visited that post and couldn’t agree more! πŸ™‚

      • your post here seems to be the beginning of an idea I also deal with often, both personally and with my clients. Can our human mind, so limited in perception and understanding of the “overview” truly know what is best for us? I always encourage people, and of course do it myself, when I am beginning to prayer for something, or any other way I may want to begin to manifest a dream, to add the words “or something better” at the end. Without confining details to limit the Universe it what it can bring to us….knowing the essence of the “what”, but leaving the “how’s” to a much more intelligent and informed Higher Power. thanks for sharing…I have been blessed to find you
        with love light and JOY

      • Yes, I thing Janet Attwood is an advocate of the ‘or something better’ suffix. We don’t want to stop ourselves getting more than we aimed for right! πŸ™‚

      • …because we probably never really aim high enough, or never really understand what we should be aiming for in the first place!! πŸ™‚ The Higher Power DOES know and so “or something better” leaves the door open to all those things we could never even imagine for ourselves but are out there just waiting for us! πŸ™‚

  6. Knowing what you really want is pivotal, because getting what you want takes energy and committment. Often I have put in that energy and committment only to find that the destination wasn’t what I had thought. Having said that though, the journey often seems like the thing I wanted more rather than the destination. Thanks for the visit and the follow to my blog. Am now following yours.

    • Yes, the journey is what it’s all about. But when you’re heading the wrong way to start with you could potentially waste a lot of time finding what you want. If you wanted to go to Rome but you got on the flight to Siberia instead, I’m sure the journey would have it’s interesting moments – but you’re not on route to Rome! πŸ™‚ Thanks for following, I hope you find it thought provoking here. Stu

  7. Great question… sometimes we don’t and then trial and error dictates.

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