I can see that having all of my possessions around me provides proof that I’m ‘worth it’ as L’Oreal says.
I worked hard, I used my intellect and integrity to provide the funds necessary to buy these things. They validate me – I NEED THEM !
Really? Do I? – NO.
I want to move to a bigger, nicer, house – WHY? So I can have further evidence of my worth. So I can show those that know me that I am capable, clever, hardworking and I CAN DO THIS!
I don’t need to earn a fortune, just enough to be financially FREE. Does that mean I’m not worth a fortune? Maybe, is that what I believe?
I only feel confident when I’m talking about something I know a lot about or doing something I know I can do. Is that true? Is that really true? Can I feel confident talking and doing that which I don’t fully know? Who would TRUST me?
Aha, my possessions therefore show others they can trust me. TRUST is one of my main values. It’s important for me to trust others and for them to trust me. I can create trust by showing that I have integrity and I’ll always do my best. Are my possessions a visible sign of that?
So, do I need to know EVERYTHING?
Maybe! Maybe, I can point the way, maybe the power is in the questions. Am I confident about that. YES. Do I trust the questioning process? YES. It’s the only place from where discovery is made.
Resistance to the exercises teachers give us may come from NOT wanting to discover the answers. One question to ask is why won’t you do an exercise? What might you find out that will prove to be uncomfortable?
We say we don’t have time or do we just create DISTRACTIONS? If we do, why? So that we don’t discover? Ignorance is BLISS so they say. It is, BUT ignorance keeps us in the dark.
Make TIME to discover. I like to help others discover. I like to facilitate that. By asking questions.
Penetrating ‘why’ questions. Why, why, why? How do we know when we get to the root ‘why’? – We FEEL it.
We know already – we’re discovering it, uncovering it, revealing it, shining a light on it. We’ll know when we KNOW.
That was my own investigation into how my possessions influence my confidence – will you ask how yours influence You?
This post was inspired by my own lessons from one of my teachers – SoulDancer (Yes, his real name!). Thanks Soul.
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