We all want to be heard, it’s part of our social DNA. We are pack
creatures and good communication is vital to our very survival. But
these days it seems that listening and hearing are two different
Have you ever had a conversation with someone and you just know that
they are just waiting for their turn to speak? Not too satisfying is
it? Next time you’re in a conversation be aware if you are actually
listening or just waiting for the chance for you to speak. The
simplest way to give your undivided attention is to not think about
saying anything. Just listen, and when it naturally becomes your turn
– if you’re asked for your opinion for instance, then ask something
relevant to what you’ve just heard which will allow the other to
When this becomes a habit you’ll not only get a lot more out of your
conversations, because you will have really understood the other’s
point of view, but you’ll find that other people, through the law of
reciprocation, will listen more intently to you. This leads to deeper
communication, increased levels of empathy and understanding and
better relationships all round.
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How many conversations do you remember where you said that you
couldn’t do something? You know the ones… ‘Oh, I’m terrible at
remembering names…’ or, ‘I’m useless at DIY…’ or, ‘Maths was never
my strong point…’ – you get the picture.
These statements aren’t so much a statement of fact or truth but
rather a statement of what we don’t like to do because we find it
difficult. It takes too much thinking. Way too much effort. You could
say these examples we use are outside of our comfort zone. The thing
is, the only way to push ourselves is to do the thing that we find
difficult. That’s one way in which we can grow. You’ll probably find
that most of those things aren’t so difficult after all – it’s just
that you’ve got into the habit of ‘not’ doing them. Do them, see how
rewarding it is to actually be able to fix that shelf or solve that
problem or improve that memory. That will then spur you on to have a
go at more and more things that previously you thought you couldn’t
In actual fact there’s nothing that you can’t do, only those things
you choose not to do.
Go on – you’ll surprise yourself.
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