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How to change negative beliefs

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Banishing Negative Beliefs

Hiya,

Below is a 6 step negative belief buster process…

Possibly the number one reason people do not reach their goals, or even attempt to reach them in many cases is – negative beliefs.

If you fall in to that category then in this post I aim to give you some tactics to move past them.

#1 Identify them – seems obvious but a lot of the time you may be completely unaware of your own negative beliefs. Ask yourself what is holding you back, what is stopping you reach your goals at the moment?

The answer to this question will reveal a reason or maybe a whole raft of reasons. These reasons are negative beliefs. Whoa! I here you say – these are valid reasons, and they may seem totally valid.

I don’t have the money, I was born in the wrong country, my family needs me, I’m not physically able etc, etc. Sound familiar?

#2 Find evidence that supports them – imagine you were someone else asking you for evidence, what would you say?

Look at my bank account, see, no money. I was born into poverty, this is a poor area in a poor country. I am the only bread winner in the family I can’t go off chasing my dreams.”…you get the idea.

#3 Now identify the meaning of that evidence – does it mean you are destined to remain where you are? Is it fate? Is it God’s plan for you? You weren’t lucky enough to be born with the right circumstances, etc.

#4 Now question if there could be another meaning – maybe it means you have to find your own path to your goals despite the obstacles. Maybe that challenge is the process that will give you the fulfillment. Maybe you are afraid of failing or possibly of the effort that will be required.

#5 Identify the fear – there almost undoubtedly is one. If you can understand what it is, you can deal with it. Fears of this type are usually a challenge to us, they are saying ‘How much do you want this?

#6 Mitigate the fear – find ways to reduce the risk of failure – eg: learn whatever you need to, model what others have done to achieve it, learn to accept failure as part of the journey.

Example:

Imagine a  kid learning to ride bike. First, they say they can’t ride (negative belief). Why can’t they? Because they fell off when they tried (evidence). What did that mean? They can’t ride (meaning). Really, could there be another meaning – like they have to do it over and over before they’ll succeed (alternative meaning). But it hurts (fear). So they should wear a helmet and knee & elbow pads (mitigate fear).

Summary

Whatever your negative belief find someone that has overcome it. Model what they did. If you can’t find someone that did what you want to do, find someone that did something for the first time and model how they did that. You could be the first with your goal. Biographies are a mine of information – read up on those you admire.

It all starts with realising that your belief can be changed. The second step is deciding that you are going to make that change. Remember the 6 keys to success in any area:

#1 Have a clear goal

#2 Understand why you want that

#3 Understand the price of getting that

#4 Decide to pay the price

#5 Pay the price

#6 Keep monitoring how you are doing

 

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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Is your life governed by Free Will or Fate?

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Hiya,

Life’s a lottery – some people say. As if they have no choice in what happens to them.

Others believe in Free Will, which according to the latest neuroscience could also be an illusion constructed by our brain.

Here’s what I think: whether you believe in fate or free will, making choices in life is a positive step. If fate exists you can’t make a wrong decision as it was already predetermined you would make that choice – so you might as well get on and make whatever choices you want.

If you believe in free will, then by making choices you are acting on what you believe so that must be the right thing – right?

Whatever you believe, get on  with choosing the life you want and stop waiting for it to fall into your lap. The more control you feel you have over your own life, the more confident you will feel – even if that control is an illusion! So be bold and take action.

Would love you to share your views over on my Facebook Fan page or below here.

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

PS: I’m now providing Skype coaching calls (also Facebook Chat) for anyone that might want some help with making their own decisions. :)

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Does Life ‘have’ meaning, or, do we ‘give’ it meaning?

Hiya,

Today’s debate on my Facebook Fan page is asking this question on Valentine’s Day because a lot of people out there believe in true love, and fate etc.

But, is that all true or do we just make it true because it’s what we ‘want’ to believe. Love to hear your view over on my Facebook page: CLICK HERE

Enjoy

Stu

🙂

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