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How to help someone having a bad day…

This is August 29th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to empathise.

You ever have one of those days where nothing seems to go right? Where you feel life is out to get you? Where you don’t know which way to turn, you’re confused or frustrated or just plain angry?

Did one of your friends or family really listen to you and say something like: ‘Oh God! That’s terrible.’ or ‘Holy cow! how did you get through that?’ or ‘Oh you poor thing, I don’t know what I would have done in that situation.’?

They didn’t try to solve anything or give you advice or tell you what you should have said or done. They just offered support and understanding. How much better did you feel after that? If it’s never happened to you – imagine how you would feel if it did.

I’m hoping you said it made you feel better or would make you feel better. If that’s the case then offer that to someone today if the opportunity arises. Just listen and feel how they are feeling. Imagine You are going through that. Let them know you understand how they feel or at least can appreciate how they feel.

Offer NO solutions (unless asked for), offer NO advice (unless asked for).




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Take the opportunity today to give someone your undivided attention for as long as they need it.


We all want to be heard, it’s part of our social DNA. We are pack
creatures and good communication is vital to our very survival. But
these days it seems that listening and hearing are two different

Have you ever had a conversation with someone and you just know that
they are just waiting for their turn to speak? Not too satisfying is
it? Next time you’re in a conversation be aware if you are actually
listening or just waiting for the chance for you to speak. The
simplest way to give your undivided attention is to not think about
saying anything. Just listen, and when it naturally becomes your turn
– if you’re asked for your opinion for instance, then ask something
relevant to what you’ve just heard which will allow the other to
continue explaining.

When this becomes a habit you’ll not only get a lot more out of your
conversations, because you will have really understood the other’s
point of view, but you’ll find that other people, through the law of
reciprocation, will listen more intently to you. This leads to deeper
communication, increased levels of empathy and understanding and
better relationships all round.





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