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Why You’ll Always Be Dissatisfied – And That’s Good News!

At first glance that headline seems a bit controversial don’t you think? Well hopefully I’m going to convince you that not only is it accurate but by the end of this article you’ll accept it willingly.
I was dissatisfied
A few years ago I was dissatisfied with the career I had made, I was managing a company but not in control of the company. My ideas for expanding it were always met with negativity by the owner. I’d created a comfortable, albeit stressful, position for myself, where I had complete autonomy. I ran the day to day business my way and the team I had were great. Unfortunately there was nowhere left for me to go within the company and I didn’t want to work my way up in another company and lose the authority I already enjoyed.
                                  Something had to change!
I had to overcome my fear and go it alone, start my own business – from scratch. It was something I’d dreamed of many times but I was afraid to try in case I failed and jeopardised what I already had. Over a period of a few years I became frustrated enough to finally give it a go. My dissatisfaction drove me forward, spurred me on. Thankfully, it was the best decision I ever made.
I wasn’t unhappy though
Here’s the thing though, at no point was I ever actually unhappy. I was happy that I had a secure job. I was happy that I had control over my daily activities with virtually no-one to answer to. I was happy that my team were hard working and conscientious. I was happy that I had a nice home and plenty of time to spend with friends. But I was dissatisfied I was not moving forward, not pursuing my goals and dreams.
I discovered
When I became a student of Bob Proctor’s ‘Goal Achiever’s‘ Program I discovered the difference between Satisfaction and Happiness. It’s held me in good stead ever since. Dissatisfaction is the driving force behind improvements. When we are dissatisfied with the performance of a product or service we look to improve it. This is an ongoing process as nothing exists that is perfect – not even life. Life is continually evolving, adapting to it’s circumstances – improving. No tool or gadget that you own has reached a point where it can’t be improved.
How to use dissatisfaction
So, if you find yourself dissatisfied with any part of your life – welcome it! Realise it for what it is, a sign that you need to make a change, an improvement, maybe even a complete rethink. Making that decision might be challenging but at least you know a decision needs to be made. However, strive to find the happiness in everything. Getting back in touch with gratitude can help remind us of all the things we can be happy about despite our dissatisfaction.
I hope that convinces you that dissatisfaction is your internal friend urging you onwards.
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Want More Confidence?

Join my team over the next few months and learn how to grow your confidence and that of others.

Join my team over the next few months and learn how to grow your confidence and that of others.


As some of you may know I have just completed the 1st part (12 weeks) of the online ‘Confidence Reality Series‘ Program.

I was already pretty confident, but I wanted to find out ‘why’ – so I could ramp it up whenever I wanted or needed. What I actually discovered was a whole matrix of influences that effect our confidence levels, AND, we have multiple levels of confidence. We can be confident at work but not in relationships. We might be assertive with our kids but not with a car salesman etc.

I learned a lot about myself and others during this last 3 months and it’s been a real eye opener on many occasions.


I have been invited to co-create a Confidence Team with Soul the author of the book ‘Pay Me What I Am Worth‘, and host of the radio show. The Team will meet via Skype a set number of times per month to work through the various exercises in the book. I’ll also be applying my own teachings regarding mindset, gaining clarity, making decisions etc. into the mix.

There’s a limited number of places so please, if you wish to improve your own confidence or simply learn where it comes from and what can make it disappear, OR if you want to help others with these issues – let me know asap.

Up until this coming Friday there is a special offer available so let me know if you are interested and I’ll give you the full details.

For now, to learn more, visit my own Team page here




PS: To listen to the shows in the series go here and scroll down to the ‘On Demand Shows‘ panel.


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