How to heal that relationship.

Stuart Young, London, UK


If you’re part of my ‘Ponders, Quotes and Questions‘ group you will already have seen this today, but I really wanted to share it with my subscribers too – especially with Thanks Giving just gone and Christmas around the corner.

This is a time of year where good relationships get stronger and not so good ones can become even more tense and stressed.

So this was today’s Ponder:

“If you’re struggling with a relationship in your life, rather than look at what’s going wrong, find something really right about it.

Now see if there’s an opportunity to do more of that.

Ask yourself: ‘What little thing would I notice first if things were great between us?

Think about what comes up.”

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Filed under Life changing, Relationships, Self help, Self Improvement

2 responses to “How to heal that relationship.

  1. Holidays can be filled with amazing sights, sounds and good times with friends and family. However, as you mentioned, if our relationships are struggling, that adds stress. So the holidays also intensify those stressors unless we change how we view them.

    Thanks for reminding us that we have a choice as to how we look at relationships and respond to others.

    It’s easy to feel out of control when things go “wrong”. I think this stems from a false belief that we somehow have control over someone else’s thoughts, feelings and reactions.

    When in fact, the only control we have is how we view the circumstances around us. I love your suggestion to stop and look at what would be the first thing we notice if things were going well.

    It’s like reverse engineering the process and starting out with the assumption that there’s going to be a Happy Ending 🙂

    I Love It!!
    Thanks for sharing 🙂

    • Thanks Linda. Thinking about what might be the first thing you notice if things were going great is an opportunity to recognise that some things are ‘already’ great. 🙂

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