How to BE who you want to Be.

This is November 22nd of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to contemplate your Be-Do-Have paradigm.

In explaining how to BE who you want to Be the brilliant Neale Donald Walsch writes:

The ‘Be-Do-Have Paradigm’ is one way of looking at life. This outlook on life, if reversed, could change your life – for the better. Because what is true about this paradigm is that most people have it all backwards.

Most people started out (I know I did) with the understanding that how life worked was like this: Have-Do-Be. That is, when I HAVE the right stuff, I can DO the right things, and then I will get to BE what I want to be.

Example: When I HAVE enough money I can DO the thing called buy a house and I can BE the thing called secure. Want one more? Here goes: when I HAVE enough time I can DO the thing called take a vacation and I can BE the thing called rested and relaxed.

See how it works? This is how my father, my school, my society told me that it works. Life works this way. The only problem was, I was NOT getting to BE the things I thought I was going to get to BE after I had done all that I thought I had to DO, and had all the things that I thought I needed to HAVE. Or, if I did get to BE that, I only got to be it for a short period of time.


I have paraphrased the above due to the room I have, but essentially life works: BE-DO-HAVE , that is – BE what you want by DOing what you want and you will end up HAVing what you want, not HAVE-DO-BE.

Look at your life to date this way, and see what you recognise.

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2 responses to “How to BE who you want to Be.

  1. Hi Stu,
    I can relate well to this topic! There was a time in my life when I was growing up that I found it much easier to Be, Do, Have. All of my urgent needs were provided for me by my loving parents so I had the luxury of exploring things that were of particular interest to me. I thrived in every area of my life during those days, meeting every challenge for personal growth with enthusiasm.

    Then I woke up one day; 18 to be exact; and my father sat down with me at the kitchen table and handed me a few pieces of paper and a phone number for professionals he had been doing business with…it was time to take fiscal responsibility for my life!

    He was my number one mentor as an entrepreneur, living by example, the Be, Do, Have model. So off I ran, tackling part time employment while going to college, living on very little money and loving every minute of every day. My mother had taught me how to be frugal, my father had taught me how to believe in myself and both had given me many opportunities under their watchful eyes to Be whom I was meant to be.

    Many years later, children, grandchildren and aging parents continue to teach me the importance of Being the person I was born to Be.

    Thank you for sharing this timely and wise message!

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