Take the opportunity today to chunk down.
Chunking down (or up for that matter) is a psychological process used in hypnotherapy and NLP to help get specific about a certain issue. An example conversation might be something like this:
Q: ‘So, why are you feeling angry today?’
A: ‘Because my boss keeps criticising my work.’
Q: ‘Why does that make you feel angry?’
A: ‘Because there’s nothing wrong with my work.’
Q: ‘So why does that make you feel angry?’
A: ‘Because it feels like he’s picking on me.’
Q: ‘And why does that make you feel angry?’
A: ‘Because I’m worried that I might get fired.’
Q: ‘And why would that make you feel angry?’
A: ‘If I got fired I couldn’t pay my mortgage etc.’
Q: ‘Why would that make you feel angry?’
A: ‘Because I don’t like feeling uncertain about stuff like that.’
Q: ‘So why does being uncertain make you feel angry?’
A: ‘Because my family depends on me.’
Q: ‘Does your family depending on you make you feel angry?’
A: ‘Yes, it puts pressure on me.’
You see from this simple example how a critical boss is blamed for the pressure someone might feel from family obligations – that might not actually be real. From here a discussion with the family could ensue to find out if there really is this dependency.
Good NLP books will deal with chunking in more depth.
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