Ever have your offer of help rejected?

This is September 20th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At ATime‘.

Take the opportunity today to Stop trying to help where it’s not wanted.

Sometimes people aren’t ready to be helped and you’ll only frustrate yourself. We’ve all been there, trying to offer the right advice at the right time except it’s being rejected.

You can see what’s going on, it’s obvious what needs to happen, you explain it clearly but your advice falls on deaf ears. Why is that?

Because the person you are trying to help is not ready to be helped. And you know what? We’ve all been in that place ourselves. If you really thought about it, you’d remember a time when you weren’t ready for someone’s help even though you knew it was the right thing. It may have been when you were a child and you were trying to ride your bike – you didn’t want your dad holding you in case you fell, you wanted to do it on your own.

Although this is frustrating to the helper, sometimes it’s exactly what’s required as sometimes people have to just figure it out for themselves.

So, offer help but accept when it’s not heeded.




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4 responses to “Ever have your offer of help rejected?

  1. so true…”You got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em,
    Know when to walk away and know when to run.”…Kenny Rogers says it best…My way of knowing when the time is right!

  2. Sometimes, I fall into the role of helper too quickly, when what someone really wants or needs from me is a listening ear, comforting shoulder or solid support. Of course, sometimes advice is asked for and then ignored. As you mentioned, it is then important to remember the times I’ve rejected advice, not because it was wrong, it was just wrong for me. (Or I was just too darn stubborn, in which case the lesson was eventually learned, just in a more difficult way!)

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