How to help someone having a bad day…

This is August 29th of my book:  ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

Take the opportunity today to empathise.

You ever have one of those days where nothing seems to go right? Where you feel life is out to get you? Where you don’t know which way to turn, you’re confused or frustrated or just plain angry?

Did one of your friends or family really listen to you and say something like: ‘Oh God! That’s terrible.’ or ‘Holy cow! how did you get through that?’ or ‘Oh you poor thing, I don’t know what I would have done in that situation.’?

They didn’t try to solve anything or give you advice or tell you what you should have said or done. They just offered support and understanding. How much better did you feel after that? If it’s never happened to you – imagine how you would feel if it did.

I’m hoping you said it made you feel better or would make you feel better. If that’s the case then offer that to someone today if the opportunity arises. Just listen and feel how they are feeling. Imagine You are going through that. Let them know you understand how they feel or at least can appreciate how they feel.

Offer NO solutions (unless asked for), offer NO advice (unless asked for).

Enjoy

Stu

:)

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6 responses to “How to help someone having a bad day…

  1. been doing this for over a year or more with a sister who just lost her husband…and she says all of the time, “Just letting me talk and you listening…not, commenting …not judging…meant everything!”…So, yes…a good thing!

  2. Oh how smart to offer no solutions, and no advice…unless asked then be very careful…. 🙂

  3. Since my time is mostly spent with teenagers, I do go up to them whenever i see them a bit out of sorts and ask if everything’s OK. They almost always (specially boys) say everything’s fine. though I see their sad faces or their teary eyes (oooh, that kills me)..I have to respect their privacy, however, I do remind them that I am there if they need someone to listen to them… no advice, just listen and showing empathy… the teenage years, they ARE tough… read you soon my friend, alexandra

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