This blog will feature a page from my book each day from now on.
Here is the page for June 27th…
Our ego more often than not rules a large part of our conscious lives. It gets us in to a lot of trouble. It’s constantly on the look out for con- firmation of our paradigms and belief systems. This can manifest in many ways, most are harmless, but some can be very confrontational. Imagine you’re a gang member in a ghetto somewhere and somebody you don’t know looks at you from across the street for a second or two. It could be because they think they know you, or they like your T-shirt, or they’re thinking of asking you for directions. You may interpret that gaze as an afront. You may think it’s a gesture of disrespect. Your ego kicks in and whispers in your inner ear ‘That guy is trying to intimidate me, right in my own neighbourhood.’ That thought may lead on to you strutting across the street to confront the guy, and so on etc. We know how that’s going to end.
Well that’s an extreme example I know, but now think how you may be doing that from time to time in a much subtler way. Screaming at someone who just cut you up on the road, or giving someone a dirty look because they bumped into you on the street without say ing exceuse me, or becoming annoyed that ‘someone’ used the last of the milk and now there’s none left for you to have a cup of tea.
Next time something like that happens, just turn the other cheek. Forgive them. Let it go. Maybe the car driver is trying desperately to get to hospital – no excuse I know but if it were you, you might be rushing a bit right? Maybe the person that bumped into you was so focused on the upset of just being fired they didn’t notice the collision. Maybe, the last of the milk is being replaced right at that second – you can wait two minutes can’t you?
It takes a bit of practise but try it next time one of those thoughts comes into your mind. And remember; your ego can be your worst side as well as your best side. Give the best side more exposure to the outside world.
“ Faced with the choice between changing one’s mind and proving that there is no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy on the proof. ”
– John Kenneth Galbraith
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