Letting Go seems to be a coincidence that I’ve noticed through some other blog posts I have visited today. Maybe it’s the time of year. So I thought I’d revisit a post from Dec last year as it seems relevant. Here’s what I posted back then, maybe it bares repeating…
“At the risk of sounding pop psych – you can’t live in the past. It’s
unchangeable. You can’t influence anything that’s ‘already’ happened.
This is obvious right? It’s so easy though to rerun old tapes in our
minds of events that have hurt us, offended us, traumatised us. It’s a
way of justifying our feelings. We use it to convince ourselves that
someone else is to blame for…whatever! We convince ourselves that we
are scarred by those events – defined maybe by them. But we’re not!
It’s a choice. We can choose not to be scarred by them. Yeah it takes
quite a bit of effort depending on how hurt you believe you were. I’m
not suggesting that your pain at the time wasn’t valid – I’m sure it
was 100%. But that was then and this is NOW!
Let it go.
Accept what happened. Accept how it made you feel at the time. Then – let it go.
If you want a brighter future step out of the darkness of the past.”
I’d like to add that it might not be as easy as saying it so try one of these techniques to help:
#1 Use The Sedona Method of 4 questions.
#2 Use the ‘Thanking’ process where you thank the person you hold resentment or anger for. Thank them for making you who you are today [strong, compassionate, loving etc.], when you really feel a sense of gratitude towards them for your positive personality traits you bring a new emotion into that space.
I hope these help.
PS: Hale Dwoskin of The Sedona Method graciously agreed to feature his 4 questions in my book – see Nov 1st if you have it or click the link above to see my post about it.
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