Bronze & Silver Medal Misery



The olympics 2012 is over!

Some world records were broken, many personal bests were smashed, and some athletes won the first medals their countries had ever received!

In amongst the celebrations though were others in misery as they failed to achieve any medals or even to get to the finals of their events. Others still, that achieved Bronze or even Silver and were miserable with that. A Women’s Korean Archer even won Gold and apologised to her country for doing it with a low mark of 8 – stating to the press that: ‘We don’t score 8s in Korea.’

This was quite surprising for me and got me thinking about expectations. We all have them, it’s what drives us forward, keeps us striving, helps us through the pain. But by being so attached to the outcome we rob ourselves of the joy of achieving anything less. How many athletes would have loved to go home with a Bronze medal but went back happy to take part but empty handed, as another came home miserable because they got a Bronze but went for a Gold.

Expectations are healthy, but being attached to the outcome is not – it is where suffering resides. Let’s be grateful for what we have, what we achieve and for the daily opportunity to do more. Let’s pursue our goals with vigour, determination and courage. But let’s also pat ourselves on the back for taking part, for taking on the challenge, for taking the risk – win, lose or draw.

Being happy can exist alongside dissatisfaction – that’s what makes us want to improve.

Take care and enjoy



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16 responses to “Bronze & Silver Medal Misery

  1. So true – we can be our own worst enemies. Great post.

  2. This is a great post Stu. And true. It does amaze me sometimes how we set expectations without stopping to question their benefit, or deficit, on our well-being.

  3. What a great way to look at expectations and disappointments–the point is never to give up! Thank you again for a great post, Stuart.

  4. Well said Stu… People will always amaze us πŸ™‚

  5. Good points, always be happy with everything you accomplish and never give up.

  6. True, being attached is no bueno. I remember seeing an Asian man cry for getting bronze. Heartbreaking.

  7. Most of the Kiwi medals were won by people sitting on their backsides, going backwards… πŸ™‚ More seriously, it’s been an insight into the human condition – there are athletes who’ve got been placed fifth, don’t get a medal, and have gone ‘wow, I did THAT! Isn’t that awesome – fifth in the ENTIRE WORLD…’ – and been happy. As they should be. And isn’t that a great philosophy of life!

    As you point out, the problem for those who come second IN THE ENTIRE WORLD and regard it as a personal failure has to do with how people define their sense of self-worth. I suspect, though, that athletics – like a few other fields I can think of – seems to attract a kind of mind-set and character that validates their self-worth by their achievement in this way. (It’s the root cause, I think, behind academic jealousies, too.)

    Of course, I know which attitude I’d rather have. No prizes for guessing which!

  8. WordsFallFromMyEyes

    I was reading the last comment and was SURE I read ‘no pizzas for guessing which’ !!

    ANYway, it is an enormous achievement to be chosen for the Olympics, to represent your country, let alone to actually have the balls to “do it”. Great post!

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