Take the opportunity today to treat others as you’d like to be treated in their position.


I think this comes from the Sermon on the Mount and is just about the only rule we need to live by. If we just acted like this on every occasion, in every situation with everyone we met, the world would be conflict free. It’s hard to do though. People get on our nerves sometimes. Hmm.

Unless you’re perfect you probably get on someone else’s nerves sometimes. Imagine that for a moment, you get on someone’s nerves. They gripe about you to other people, they may even moan at you to your face. Does that bother you in any way? If it doesn’t then move on to the next page, but if it does consider this: you’re not doing it on purpose are you? No, so you have your reasons for behaving in the way that gets on someone else’s nerves. Guess what? The people that get on your nerves also have their reasons.

So the next time you’re getting irritated by someone try and understand their reasons, see it from their shoes, imagine you are them.

You may just find yourself acting and feeling differently.




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20 responses to “Take the opportunity today to treat others as you’d like to be treated in their position.

  1. Hi Stu, we practice the “golden rule in our office” and it is about the only rule we need to follow as everything would apply to it and be measured by it. Have a great Thursday!

    • Aha, reciprocity! Part of our brain actually applies this rule. If you treat someone a particular way or vice versa, the other will actively seek ways to reciprocate. That’s why when someone confronts us we immediately feel the need to become confrontational ourselves. Once we notice this happening and are aware of the rule – we can more readily change our approach to one we’d prefer. Thanks Tina. 🙂

  2. Great post! The Golden Rule. Many need this reminder. Thank you.

  3. Well said! Thanks so much for this reminder!

  4. God bless you, dear Stuart, for this post today, as I read it within mere hours of sitting and just listening and nodding to someone’s sad tales, which had irritated me on previous days, but not today. For today I began with a prayer on my early walk to be empowered to put myself in other people’s shoes and try to understand things from their point of view, instead of my own preconceived “notions”. Hallelujah, your advice here really does work!

    • You can’t imagine Granbee how thrilled I am to hear that. Thank you so much for sharing that. Please get the first 79 pages of the book if you haven’t already – there’s no charge and it’s full of guides like this one. Have a great day 🙂

  5. It’s challenging, isn’t it, to respect other people’s freedom to be exactly who they are, learning and expanding and growing out of their childhood traumata through each interaction with other people? Ultimately, treating other people as one would wish to be treated means starting from a place of goodwill and respect for their journey. Thanks for a delightful and wise post!!

    • Thank you so much for your comment – please take advantage of my offer at the moment to gift you the first 79 pages as a pdf. Nice to see you here. 🙂

  6. It was my personal rule for a long time and seldom got it back, it became a one way street with some people, so now, I am a bit selective :(… And have stopped expecting reciprocity…my newrule is BE YOURSELF, BE POLITE , HEAR THEM OUT… Though with my students I do emphasize what you say as a classroom guideline (the word rule with teenagers works like inverse psychology) give respect-get respect, hear-be heard… Thank you Stu, read you soon, Alexandra

    • The thing about reciprocity is that it only works when it’s not expected. Giving must be unconditional. Of course we can become exhausted if we are not given to, that’s why we need a network of beautiful souls around us that will give unconditionally to us. We know who they are – they’re the ones we love spending time with and who lift our spirits. I can imagine teaching teenagers would be exhausting! Bravo to you. 🙂

      • Oh it is but it feeds my soul they are young people that feel misunderstood or that their opinion is never good enough or thought through enough to be spoken and in class they’ve got a voice among peers and me as the adult that at that moment represents all the adults in their lives so I’ve got my work set out for me and the wonderfulchance to redeem the image they’ve got of us oldies… 🙂

    • So you are receiving – it’s just maybe indirect. You are rewarded by the effect you have ON them rather than how they interact with you. What would you like to change?

  7. Oh my students are part of my circle of beautiful souls and I have identified those who are not…we do have a choice, right?! We don’t have to be lovely to everyone all the time?! It’s just hard and exhausting to feel you are dealing with people that are just waiting for you to let down your guard… 🙂

    • Yes, often with people we are close to in one way or another they are testing us with their behaviour. Waiting to see proof that you don’t care about them so they can experience evidence that their thoughts about themselves are correct ie: they are not worthy, or liked, or appreciated, or loved. Often it is the most obnoxious ones that are in the most desperate need of our approval, love, attention and kindness. There lies the problem – how do we muster the energy to deal with their behaviour constantly?

  8. my goodness! I’m going to sound like a really bad person here but the only obnoxious I have energy to deal with is if it comes in the form a teenager because I know all the turmoil they are dealing with and also appreciate their lack of experience and knowledge needed to get through stuff, but when it comes in the form of adults, well, then I run the other way, jajajaaaa (I’m going to recommend they get themselves a blog and use it as a venting mechanism like i do)… Yikes!! I’m awful; but do I get a point for being honest? 🙂

  9. Great reminder, thanks.

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