Most people are envious in some way or another of someone else. We love the house they live in or the car they drive or the partner they’re with or the lifestyle they lead yada yada.
Then the guilt button might go on. Often people feel bad for feeling envious. There’s no need. Envy can be a good thing. Envy drives us on to create the same in our lives. Envy can be the fuel you need to reach your goals. Envy can be useful.
Jealousy however is envy’s darker sibling. Jealousy wants what someone else has. Not something the same or similar but actually what they have. Jealousy leads to lies and deceit and resentment. In the worst cases it can lead to hate, anger and crime.
So the next time you want what someone else has consider whether you are being jealous or envious. If it’s the latter, allow that to spur you on to get the same. Use what they have as a model. Even go as far as to ask them how they got what it is you want.
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