Anger is a natural emotion. Like all natural emotions, if suppressed
it can distort into more destructive behaviour. There are ways of
dissipating anger when you feel it welling up such as meditating or
just slow, deep breathing. Sometimes though it happens too suddenly –
when you stub your toe for instance or maybe your computer crashes,
deleting an hour’s work in the process. At times like these our house
can become blue with my choice of language! My other half usually
keeps her office door closed due to the volume of that language in
case she’s on a call. I’m working on it!
The thing is, once I’ve screamed for a couple of seconds I calm right
down – sometimes it might last for a minute or so. I rarely fester on
something however. Through expessing my anger I can get through it
very quickly and can therefore find clarity of mind on the other side.
I remember a scene in the Billy Crystal and Robert de Niro film
‘Analyze This’ – where Billy, the mafia boss’ psychiatrist, tells him
to hit the pillow on the sofa (to express his anger) and de Niro pulls
out a gun and shoots the pillow into a billowing puff of stuffing!
Hilarious! If you haven’t seen it – treat yourself.
The big key here is – don’t allow the expression of your anger to hurt
or intimidate another person. It’s your anger – you keep it! If you
find that you tend towards anger then I suggest you seek some
professional advice as it can lead to physical disease. Remember,
exercise can releave the tension of anger so go for a walk to relax.