Our ego more often than not rules a large part of our conscious lives.
It gets us in to a lot of trouble. It’s constantly on the look out for
confirmation of our paradigms and belief systems. This can manifest in
many ways, most are harmless, but some can be very confrontational.
Imagine you’re a gang member in a ghetto somewhere and somebody you
don’t know looks at you from across the street for a second or two. It
could be because they think they know you, or they like your T-shirt,
or they’re thinking of asking you for directions. You may interpret
that gaze as an afront. You may think it’s a gesture of disrespect.
Your ego kicks in and whispers in your inner ear ‘That guy is trying
to intimidate you, right in your own neighbourhood.’ That thought may
lead on to you strutting across the street to confront the guy, and so
on etc. We know how that’s going to end.
Well that’s an extreme example I know but now think how you may be
doing that from time to time in a much subtler way. Screaming at
someone who just cut you up on the road, or giving someone a dirty
look because they bumped into you on the street without saying exceuse
me, or becoming annoyed that ‘someone’ used the last of the milk and
now there’s none left for you to have a cup of tea.
Next time something like that happens, just turn the other cheek.
Forgive them. Let it go. Maybe the car driver is trying desperately to
get to hospital – no excuse I know but if it were you, you might be
rushing a bit right? Maybe the person that bumped into you was so
focused on the upset of just being fired they didn’t notice the
collission. Maybe, the last of the milk is being replaced right at
that second – you can wait two minutes can’t you?
It takes a bit of practise but try it next time one of those thoughts
comes into your mind. And remember; your ego can be your worst side as
well as your best side. Give the best side more exposure to the