Take the opportunity today to try and understand something that upsets you.

Hiya,

This is April 15th page from my book “How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time.

   ‘You’re never upset for the reason you think.’ That’s the title of Paul and Layne Cutright’s #1 Amazon Bestselling book. It explores the root causes of why we are upset, presupposing that what we think we’re upset over is in actual fact a guise for something else completely.

If you find yourself getting upset over all sorts of things it’s possible they all have the same root cause. Once you identify that, you are well on your way to alleviating some, if not all, of the feelings associated with it including: anger, hurt, defensiveness, blame, guilt, shame, confusion etc.

If you do suffer from constant upset this exercise could seriously improve your life. Start by asking yourself: ‘What else could I really be getting upset about here?’ Just explore the possibility. It takes being brutally honest with yourself, are you ready for that?  

Enjoy

Stu

:)

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Back pain, headaches? – Listen to this NOW!

Hiya,

This is a blog about changing your life. It could be in your relationships, your health, your career, your goals etc.

Well today I wanted to share this powerful (and amusing) interview between Howard Stern and Dr John Sarno – a US  doctor that explains how much of the chronic pain we sometimes suffer have no physical cause.

Relief from constant pain could change your life for the better in a more profound way than almost anything else. I know you are open minded enough to entertain the concepts talked about here.

Enjoy

Stu

:)

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Just to make you feel good…

Hiya,

A friend posted this video on FB yesterday and it moved me so much I just wanted to share it to make you feel good. Get tissues!

Do you know someone that deserves a helping hand? What small thing could YOU do for that person today to lighten their load?

Enjoy

Stu

:)

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How to change negative beliefs

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Banishing Negative Beliefs

Hiya,

Below is a 6 step negative belief buster process…

Possibly the number one reason people do not reach their goals, or even attempt to reach them in many cases is – negative beliefs.

If you fall in to that category then in this post I aim to give you some tactics to move past them.

#1 Identify them - seems obvious but a lot of the time you may be completely unaware of your own negative beliefs. Ask yourself what is holding you back, what is stopping you reach your goals at the moment?

The answer to this question will reveal a reason or maybe a whole raft of reasons. These reasons are negative beliefs. Whoa! I here you say – these are valid reasons, and they may seem totally valid.

I don’t have the money, I was born in the wrong country, my family needs me, I’m not physically able etc, etc. Sound familiar?

#2 Find evidence that supports them – imagine you were someone else asking you for evidence, what would you say?

Look at my bank account, see, no money. I was born into poverty, this is a poor area in a poor country. I am the only bread winner in the family I can’t go off chasing my dreams.”…you get the idea.

#3 Now identify the meaning of that evidence - does it mean you are destined to remain where you are? Is it fate? Is it God’s plan for you? You weren’t lucky enough to be born with the right circumstances, etc.

#4 Now question if there could be another meaning - maybe it means you have to find your own path to your goals despite the obstacles. Maybe that challenge is the process that will give you the fulfillment. Maybe you are afraid of failing or possibly of the effort that will be required.

#5 Identify the fear - there almost undoubtedly is one. If you can understand what it is, you can deal with it. Fears of this type are usually a challenge to us, they are saying ‘How much do you want this?

#6 Mitigate the fear - find ways to reduce the risk of failure – eg: learn whatever you need to, model what others have done to achieve it, learn to accept failure as part of the journey.

Example:

Imagine a  kid learning to ride bike. First, they say they can’t ride (negative belief). Why can’t they? Because they fell off when they tried (evidence). What did that mean? They can’t ride (meaning). Really, could there be another meaning – like they have to do it over and over before they’ll succeed (alternative meaning). But it hurts (fear). So they should wear a helmet and knee & elbow pads (mitigate fear).

Summary

Whatever your negative belief find someone that has overcome it. Model what they did. If you can’t find someone that did what you want to do, find someone that did something for the first time and model how they did that. You could be the first with your goal. Biographies are a mine of information – read up on those you admire.

It all starts with realising that your belief can be changed. The second step is deciding that you are going to make that change. Remember the 6 keys to success in any area:

#1 Have a clear goal

#2 Understand why you want that

#3 Understand the price of getting that

#4 Decide to pay the price

#5 Pay the price

#6 Keep monitoring how you are doing

 

Enjoy

Stu

:)

Related posts:

What If You Could?

Making Big Decisions

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Do Your Possessions Give You Confidence?

A picture of a load of possessions

What do yours mean?

Hiya,

I can see that having all of my possessions around me provides proof that I’m ‘worth it’ as L’Oreal says.

I worked hard, I used my intellect and integrity to provide the funds necessary to buy these things. They validate me – I NEED THEM !

Really? Do I?  - NO.

I want to move to a bigger, nicer, house – WHY? So I can have further evidence of my worth. So I can show those that know me that I am capable, clever, hardworking and I CAN DO THIS!

I don’t need to earn a fortune, just enough to be financially FREE. Does that mean I’m not worth a fortune? Maybe, is that what I believe?

I only feel confident when I’m talking about something I know a lot about or doing something I know I can do. Is that true? Is that really true? Can I feel confident talking and doing that which I don’t fully know? Who would TRUST me?

Aha, my possessions therefore show others they can trust me. TRUST is one of my main values. It’s important for me to trust others and for them to trust me. I can create trust by showing that I have integrity and I’ll always do my best. Are my possessions a visible sign of that?

So, do I need to know EVERYTHING?

Maybe! Maybe, I can point the way, maybe the power is in the questions. Am I confident about that. YES. Do I trust the questioning process? YES. It’s the only place from where discovery is made.

Resistance to the exercises teachers give us may come from NOT wanting to discover the answers. One question to ask is why won’t you do an exercise? What might you find out that will prove to be uncomfortable?

We say we don’t have time or do we just create DISTRACTIONS? If we do, why? So that we don’t discover? Ignorance is BLISS so they say. It is, BUT ignorance keeps us in the dark.

Make TIME to discover. I like to help others discover. I like to facilitate that. By asking questions.

What questions?

Penetrating ‘why’ questions. Why, why, why? How do we know when we get to the root ‘why’? – We FEEL it.

We know already – we’re discovering it, uncovering it, revealing it, shining a light on it. We’ll know when we KNOW.

That was my own investigation into how my possessions influence my confidence – will you ask how yours influence You?

 

This post was inspired by my own lessons from one of my teachers – SoulDancer (Yes, his real name!). Thanks Soul.

Enjoy

Stu

:)

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Can You Make Your Workday Better?

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If you’re fed up at work quitting may not be the answer, try this first…

Originally posted on Practical Practice Management:

Successful entrepreneur

Many of our jobs are very stressful and hectic.  At times is it hard to be thankful when we are “under the gun” to perform and produce.

I have talked to people who are unhappy with their work situation and feel that there is no way that things could ever change.   If this sounds like you, you might want to take a look at Stuart Young’s new book “Do You Hate Your Job?”

Even for those who enjoy their job, they tend to forget how lucky they are and the paycheck it provides to take care of their needs.

Being thankful for what we do have each day can change our attitude very quickly, to one that allows us to see our life in a more positive way.

Listed below are five questions to ask yourself each day that will help you keep in check as to what is important…

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What you MUST do next…

Person stepping towards their future

Just one step at a time

Hiya,

Another Monday at the same old job? Then you must take the next step.

If you have read, or are still reading my new eBook “Do You Hate Your Job?” then please read this post carefully. I wrote the book to help people struggling with their job or career. To that end, let me know if the book didn’t answer your questions or doubts.

Let me know in what other way you might still be stuck and I will try and help you. Just reply below or email your question direct to me at: stuart.young40@googlemail.com  (totally confidential).

There is a light at the end of this tunnel by the way, there is a way out if your suffering self doubt, confusion or frustration, and a way to enjoy your job as much as any other part of your life.

Seem unlikely?

It did to me too 10 years ago. Now that’s a long and distant memory. Do I still work hard – oh yeah, but I enjoy almost every minute of it. Do I still get frustrated? Yep, but now I at least feel in control of my own destiny and the direction of my career.

And I can show you how to find a place where you feel like that too. Learn about the process that I went through all those years ago right here: ONE STEP

Do you know what your next step is?

Take care

Stu

:)

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