The importance of self awareness.

Picture of Anthony De Mello’s book ‘Awareness’

Learn self awareness

Hiya,

In Anthony De Mello’s book ‘Awareness’ he states:

Self-observation means to watch everything in you and around you as far as possible and watch it as if it were happening to someone else. It means that you do not personalize what is happening to you. It means that you look at things as if you have no connection with them whatsoever.

I think what he was getting at is we can choose how we feel about any circumstance at any moment by adopting this thought process. It’s similar to NLP’s disassociation technique.

If you distance yourself from the negative feelings you can be more objective about what the situation actually means. “Seeing it as it is – NOT worse than it is” as Tony Robbins would say.

But also, distancing yourself from positive feelings and neutral feelings as well can be equally fruitful. With practice we can see that at any moment we can ‘choose’ to feel however we wish just by thinking it. Sounds implausible at first doesn’t it? As I said – it takes practice.

Try it today and see how your experience, good or bad, alters.

Enjoy

Stu

:)

PS: To learn more about changing your mindset to bring more happiness, success and wellbeing into your life take a look at this

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For all the children’s book writers out there…

Hiya,

Why I began to write for children,” from Isaac Bashevis Singer’s 1978 Nobel banquet speech:

  1. Children read books, not reviews. They don’t give a hoot about the critics.
  2. Children don’t read to find their identity.
  3. They don’t read to free themselves of guilt, to quench the thirst for rebellion, or to get rid of alienation.
  4. They have no use for psychology.
  5. They detest sociology.
  6. They don’t try to understand Kafka or Finnegans Wake.
  7. They still believe in God, the family, angels, devils, witches, goblins, logic, clarity, punctuation, and other such obsolete stuff.
  8. They love interesting stories, not commentary, guides, or footnotes.
  9. When a book is boring, they yawn openly, without any shame or fear of authority.
  10. They don’t expect their beloved writer to redeem humanity. Young as they are, they know that it is not in his power. Only the adults have such childish illusions.

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Enjoy

Stu

:)

PS: Write the way You want to, not the way someone else tells you that you should.

 

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Is updating your CV (Resume) a waste of time?

Lady dreaming about job

Have you asked yourself this lately?

Hiya,

I for one have never got a job based on my CV. In fact I don’t think I’ve ever had a CV. Maybe I’m fortunate, I’ve never looked for a job, one always presented itself as the old one came to an end or had served its purpose.

For a lot of people their CV is hugely important, maybe you are one of them. But consider this for a moment.. .what are the key elements of a CV?

  1. Where you are at the moment
  2. Where you were before that
  3. What your education level was

I know it’s more involved than that but that’s basically it.

The thing is that is ALL about who you were. If you want to experience something new you have to think differently than you did before. You have to try on a new mindset. Try a new perspective. Otherwise you are just looking for more of what you have right now. And if you’re reading this you probably have some frustrations about your job, right?

So ask yourself: is getting a better version of your present job the answer?

If it is – Great! Sort your CV out asap. If not, you might want to think more about where you want your life to head over the next 5 – 10 years.

The right job or career for you could be in your very near future, but if you don’t identify it now, you’ll never recognise it when it comes along.

Put that work in right now and figure out what it is you’d love (or even like) to do.

Let me know in the comments below. :)

Strive to thrive

Stu

:)

PS: If you’d like some help with this READ THIS

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Take the opportunity today to investigate.

 

Magnifying glass looking at the word investigate

Take a closer look at something

Hiya,

You can apply this to anything you want.

Investigate how something works if you want. Investigate why some things happens the way they do, or why some belief systems believe the things they do.

Investigate some historical fact or how the chain of events in nature lead to certain outcomes. Investigate investment opportunities or business opportunities.

Investigate why you think the way you do about certain things or why you do the things you do.

Basically, just kick start your investigative side today – who knows what you’ll find.

What will you investigate today? (Comment below)

Enjoy

Stu

:)

PS: This is p.369 of my book “How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time.”

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Take the opportunity today to thank everybody from your past because of where you are today and where you will be tomorrow.

Photo of blossom on a tree

Every season has it’s time

Hiya,

You do realise that everything that has ever happened to you, good or bad, has brought you to where you are today.

You may be in a great place right now, so think if any tiny little thing in your past were different it would have changed your trajectory and you may well be in a very different place right now rather than where you are.

All those not so good places were necessary in order for you to be here.

If you’re not in such a great place just realise that you are in one of those not so good places that will lead you to the great place later. So appreciate it for what it is.

Why only appreciate it later? Thank everything and everybody from your past for helping to get you here. Thank ‘here’ for being part of the journey that’s going to get you ‘there’ in the future.

And always remember… in the depths of winter the blossom is waiting to bloom.

Who will you thank, and for what?

Enjoy

Stu

:)

PS: This is p.358 of my book ‘How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time‘.

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Are you a fish or a mudskipper?

Mudskippers exist outside of their comfort zone

Mudskippers – fish out of water!

Hiya,

You may have heard of the expression ‘a fish out of water’, it usually describes someone struggling with being outside of their comfort zone.

We’ve all been there, right?

The thing with most fish is that they are completely unaware of what water is – they are immersed in it, surrounded by it, yet cannot see it. If they are taken out of it they thrash and wriggle and jump around until they get back into it.

Mudskippers on the other hand have evolved the ability to survive (even thrive) outside of their natural habitat. They have developed the ability to breathe through their skin and can skip around on fins that have adapted over the millennia.

This could only have happened due to their ancestor’s circumstances and determination to survive outside of water. Outside of their natural habitat and environment. It has allowed them to inhabit two separate environments. They have a different perspective of both habitats – creatures that inhabit only one can’t possibly understand.

So, are you a fish that must remain in familiar surroundings and circumstances? Or are you a mudskipper – able to adapt and see conditions with a different perspective?

Enjoy

Stu

:)

PS: James Arthur Ray has an analogy of a half full glass of grape juice. Learning and absorbing information and knowledge that can make you more aware is like pouring clear water into the glass. The more you pour, the clearer the liquid becomes until eventually it pours over the rim of the glass. As you continue to pour, eventually you will be left with a completely clear glass of water. If you want that kind of clarity take a look at this —> CLICK HERE

 

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Can you see things for what they really are?

Hiya,

You know what I mean right? Sure you do. I could sit here and write a page of words that show you what they might be but I’d only be scratching the surface wouldn’t I?

We’ve all got stuff going on that we say is this or that. But we know it’s not. I mean it could look that way to the untrained eye, to the casual observer, but we know it’s just a façade for what’s really going on.

Take a good look at it today, be as honest with yourself as you can. Allow the discomfort or maybe even pain of looking at it to come through. Welcome it. Once we open the cupboard door and shine a light in there we can see there was nothing to be afraid of.

I know this’ll be hard for a lot of people – me included, so lets all dig deep and give it a try.

What will you take a look at today?

Enjoy (if you can)

Stu

:)

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